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June 5th, 2013, 07:16 AM
Ariw's Avatar Veteran
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Today I've decided to start looking at the silver lining of my situation.
I've been feeling so down about this lately and like I have SO much to complain about...
But the truth is I have SOOOO much to be thankful for..way more than my hardships.

Silver lining about having to postpone ttc for a few months...
-I won't be pregnant in Japan which means I can eat and drink whatever I want ..that is the reason we picked Japan because we LOVE the food and wanted traditional Japanese food...including lots of raw things
-I have 3 more months to better prepare my body for childbearing...getting in shape and using my gym membership that I BEGGED dh for! Eating a more plant based diet..if you haven't see the documentaries on netflix DEFINITELY watch them!..Hungry for change, forks over knives etc...
-An extra 3 months of just me and my husband...and 3 extra months of focusing on cherishing them before they are gone
-A few extra nights of staying out and having fun with my friends (where alcohol is involved)

There are so many reasons I can choose to look at and be thankful for. And even outside this ttc mess I have been SO blessed in my life.

Just a random thought I wanted to share
Feel free to add your own silver linings...
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June 5th, 2013, 07:39 AM
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Very beautiful!
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June 5th, 2013, 07:48 AM
ArmyWife28's Avatar Praying for a Miracle
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I'm glad you are looking at things in a positive aspect, I caught myself doing the same thing yesterday. Everything happens for a reason and when God see's fit he will bless each and every one of us
Me: 29, Ovary Dysfunction DH: 31, No Issues
Married the love of my life on 9/15/12
Stepmom to Christopher 12y/o
FurMommy to Bowie, Abby, Macy, & Leroy

4 Rounds of Clomid & 2 Rounds of Femara with NO Luck
6/5/13 1st cycle of Follistim 600AQ CD3- CD11
6/14/13 Ovidrel Trigger Shot CD12
7/1/13 27mm Cyst on R Ovary, Cancelled cycle
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June 5th, 2013, 09:19 AM
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I am so glad you are finding the silver linings Ari. I hope you have an amazing time in Japan, that sounds incredible!

My silver linings are similar - DH and I really are closer, I used my down time to get healthier and eat better, spent a lot of quality time with DH, and we got our furbaby who we love very much.
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Cautiously expecting Seamonkey #2 Due Oct 4th

Missing our angels:
Molar pregnancy loss (12 weeks) - 1/2013
Missed Miscarriage (10 weeks) - 6/2013
Early Miscarriage (5 weeks) - 12/2016

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June 5th, 2013, 09:49 AM
Nicholle ttc's Avatar TTC our first!
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That was wonderfully said. I hope that this time from ttcing provides you with the balance and perspective needed before trying again. We're here if you need us! GL and KUP!
TTCing since August 2011
Me (33)-LP on the short side, but no other abnormalities
DH (37)-slightly subfertile morphology and motility

Natural cycles-August 2011-July 2012
August 2012-October 2012 clomid and progesterone
November 2012-IUI
December 2012, cysts from IUI, on bcp

January 2013-February 2013, long protocol IVF
15 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, 7 fertilized with ICSI
All 7 made it to 5 day transfer, 2 were transferred
Only 1 frozen snowbaby
1st IVF

May 10, 2013, lap sx, Stage 1 endo

June 2013 - MA Round 2
Femara + hcg shot
IUI # 2

FET tentatively scheduled for 10/31/13

Have never seen a bfp.

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June 5th, 2013, 09:50 AM
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Wonderful post Your trip to Japan is going to be amazing! I am jealous!!

My silver linings are that hubby and I are succeeding in building our dream life on the farm, I can focus on building my new "career" raising market lambs, and our marriage is really strong. I know fertility issues can be hard on some marriages, but my hubby is so supportive and I think it's actually making us closer. When we finally do get pregnant it's going to be SO exciting and our life is set up now to be such a great family home for a child! I think going through all this will actually make me a better mother and appreciate my kid(s) more than if I hadn't. There's a lesson in everything right?
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June 5th, 2013, 11:03 AM
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Definitely well said. Just don't be ashamed to let out the whines when you need to every now and then. Grief and anger are natural steps of loss.
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June 5th, 2013, 12:29 PM
girlsofsummer's Avatar Us two became we three <3
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Great, great post. But ditto what Sara said, too...if sadness/anger rears its ugly head, just roll with it.

To add: It's 3 more months to get more financially secure, wear cute clothes and heels (not that maternity clothes aren't cute, but you know what I mean), and just...be. And not be responsible for anyone else just yet!
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