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August 16th, 2013, 07:55 PM
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My Husband and I are just starting to try to conceive. We haven't been trying yet, but haven't been preventing either. I'm a worrier, so I'm afraid I will get freaked out if it doesn't happen right away. I know that it can be a long process for some couples, sometimes taking years. Can anyone offer me some helpful, calming advise.

P.S. I am almost thirty and while some of the women I work with say "you have plenty of time" there are others who say "if you two want kids you need to get on the ball. We have waited this long to make sure we were both ready and mature. ( We started dating when I was 19 and have "sowed some wild oats" when we were younger. Didn't feel it was right to blemish the miracle of a child with childish behaviors we weren't quite finished with. To be clear- always monogamous to each other. I know it may not matter to some, but the area we live in, it matters a lot to both of us.) I'm scared that with all the "women" and I use that word loosely when referring to some I know from this area, that just "happen" to get pregnant without trying, I already feel a little like I have failed because it hasn't just happened. I've also never been textbook regular so worried about that as well. Need advise please.
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August 17th, 2013, 12:47 PM
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Start with a physical. Find out why your AF are not regular. If you aren't ovulating, there's no reason to sit around and twiddle your thumbs for a year trying.

If a physical isn't possible... get a basal body thermometer and start temping. If you don't O every 40 days, then you can either try something Vitex to induce ovulation, or Soy Isoflavens (same thing, different way to take it. Do NOT take soy if you have a thyroid problem).

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August 17th, 2013, 06:17 PM
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I would speak with your doctor about your irregular cycle for sure. I hope your stay here is nice and short I've been TTC for 10 cycles now. Well, this is the 10th. I'm a few years older than you though. Again, good luck!
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August 18th, 2013, 11:43 AM
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Thanks for the advice. At my last physical it was determined I was ovulating. I do plan on getting a more in-depth physical just to be sure. I do know that my body skips ovulation from time to time, and they attributed it to weight gain. I was one of those teenagers that could eat anything and never gain a pound, so when I hit my mid twenties and all of a sudden couldn't do that anymore, I gained a lot more than I expected to. I have lost 30+ lbs so far and I haven't had a "skipped" month in a quite a while. My cycles fluctuate between 28 and 32 days, which isn't to bad I guess. But it still makes me nervous. I'm hopeful and excited. I'm anxious to start trying. We have only told a few of our close friends/family, and they have all started giving us advice. However, only a few of them ever had to try. That's why I wanted to talk with others who couldn't just randomly get pregnant.
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August 18th, 2013, 03:25 PM
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28-32 days is not bad, and might not be textbook regular but I know several women who fluctuate between 30-50 day cycles and got pregnant with careful charting within 6 months and no fertility meds. Do both temping and checking your CM. It takes me like a minute a day with my smart phone.

I'm currently waiting but went off HBC to see if my cycles have evened out, as I went on it as a teen because they were horribly irregular, so I could nip any problems in the bud before we were ready. My first was 35 days, my second was 29 days. I will be 31 when I start TTC and have no worries that I won't be able to conceive within six months.
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August 19th, 2013, 04:29 AM
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Thank you so much. This does make me feel better. And I went on HBC when I was pretty young and was on it for a little more than 10 years. Best of luck to everyone. I have my fingers crossed for myself and everyone here.
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August 19th, 2013, 04:39 AM
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Hi, I just wanted to say too, I'm one of the co-hosts for the board. I think the ladies have already given you some great advice!

I jus wanted to add that if you have only recently come off birth control that your cycles can take a little while to even out so try not to worry if theyre wonky at first.
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August 19th, 2013, 04:33 PM
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Agreed with everyone else! Stress can create alot of unwanted symptoms as well. You know your body the best though. My cycles are typically 33-35 days long and that is normal for me per my OB. Everyone is different. Just remember that just because you dont conceive right away doesn't mean your not going to. I am 23 and on my 7th or 8th cycle TTC. Good luck to you and hope your not on here for long!

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August 19th, 2013, 07:45 PM
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Thanks to everyone, and you have all made me feel really welcome. We (my husband and I) have been talking about TTC for a while now and finally decided to get started. It's really great to have people to talk to about everything. The area I'm from seems to treat people like if you haven't had at least one child by the time you are 27 you can't do it. I know very few couples that didn't have their children by "surprise". Thank you all so much. It's nice just to have people to talk to. I have set my next exam up for next week, and have found a really great clinic that offers planning assistance and natural solutions to assist with TTC. They assist with charting and planning rather than just offering me fertility drugs. The last time I spoke with my form clinic about us wanting to start a family after our wedding, they immediately started offering drugs and procedures, after telling me I didn't show any signs of immediate issues. I'm kinda rambling, but I feel so much more comfortable talking her than with most of the women who never had to try.
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