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September 8th, 2013, 05:46 PM
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Some back ground info first- I just turned 32 a couple of weeks ago, I'm pretty healthy but am working on losing some weight to get my bmi to 24 (only need to lose a little, and am working on it by mild calorie reduction & 30 minutes of walking/day- based on past experience, it should take me 2-4 weeks to reach my goal). I just started following the "boy sway diet", and once I reach a bmi of 24, I'll increase my diet by 400 calories around the time of ovulation (since that's what everything I've read about "boy sway" says to do). I was on the birth control pill for over 9 years, went off of it in May & just recently decided to start ttc (though we havent started yet- my cycle isnt right yet). I've read it can take several months or a year after going off of the pill for your cycle to straighten out before you have regular periods, and that's def the case for me- I've had ONE period (which was a very normal period, and I did have EWCM 2 weeks before it). I had EWCM 2 weeks after, as well... but havent had another period since. I took a preg test just to see (we havent had unprotected BDing at all, but I wanted to make sure because I wanted to care for myself right if I got a positive) and it was negative. So I'm impatiently awaiting AF...

Now for my questions- I understand that if I want to try for a boy, we should only have BD immediately around & on O day, and that it's also the best way to get pregnant period (whether boy or girl)... but if I didnt care about trying for a boy, would it be irresponsible to begin having BD now, & just continue on until we get preg- would there be anything wrong with getting preg without waiting for my cycle to regulate? Will it put me at a higher risk of mc?

Also, regarding mc... if a person mc, how long should she wait before ttc again?

I'm adding 30 min daily walking as exercise, and have been cha-cha & jive dancing several days a week, & am a pretty active person. I will NOT be running, jogging, or riding my horses until I give birth or quit ttc, even though dr says its fine to do so. Any other things I need to do/consider?

If it matters, DH is 33, VERY healthy, and we've been married almost 10 yrs. Never ttc before.
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September 8th, 2013, 06:10 PM
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First of all, welcome! I'm Jessica, 28, and we've been TTCing for about 16 months, working through some minor issues, but hopefully getting closer to a BFP. I'm looking forward to getting to know you and hope that your stay is short and sweet. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions about the board or TTC

Nothing irresponsible, as far as I can tell, about BDing as often as you want, as long as you don't suspect any sperm issues with DH (there aren't a lot of clues outside of a sperm analysis so this is one of those where you just assume that it's okay until you hear otherwise). Usually, the reason they want you to wait to get a period so it is easier and more accurate to date the pregnancy, but I don't think the miscarriage rate is higher.

Also, in terms of miscarriage, your doctor will likely tell you how soon after you can start trying again. Generally, if it's a very early miscarriage, you can go back to trying right away. If it's slightly later, you might be advised to wait one cycle. Only in cases of some kind of complication would you need to wait longer than that. I'm sure some of the other ladies have more information for you on that one.

Are you charting at all? If not, check out fertility friend. It will help you know better what's going on with your cycle more quickly - did you ovulate, when, etc, which can help you know better when to BD AND if there are any sort of issues etc.

All the best!!
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September 8th, 2013, 07:06 PM
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Welcome to the board. I have no advice on the swaying bit but just wanted to say welcome and i hope your stay is short. This is my 11th cycle and I just turned 35.

You'll soon love all the ladies here and you'll feel right at home. Looking forward to getting to know you.
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September 8th, 2013, 07:37 PM
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Hi and welcome!
I'm Ari, dh and I have been TTC since April.
We got pregnant the first month but miscarried..
We had to wait until last month due to complications with the m/c (it was ectopic)
But my Dr told me normally is the mc ends on its own naturally then you can go back to TTC right away (some say wait one cycle hut it varies by Dr)
And my midwife has also told me that getting pregnant while your periods are irregular (like coming off BC) does NOT increase your risk of miscarriage.
I would think you'd be fine TTC whenever you felt ready..but of course I'm not your Dr
No info on the boy sway thing though :/
Anyways I hope your stay here is short and sweet
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September 8th, 2013, 07:43 PM
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Everyone has it covered pretty well up there ^^

We wait a cycle if a loss makes af officially late by 24 hours, we don't if she shows up on time, or early. I've had many early miscarriages (no known cause yet.. hopefully soon).
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September 8th, 2013, 08:00 PM
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Plan4Fate- did you name all of your known miscarriages? If so, that is very cool. You'll get to raise your babies in Heaven

Thank you everyone, I feel very welcome & appreciate all the advice. Yes, I've begun charting, there just hasn't been much to chart just yet lol
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September 9th, 2013, 07:17 AM
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Hi there! Welcome to the board! I am Elle

It took my body about 6 months to regulate after coming off of BCP. I had no periods for a while and then a few long cycles and then it more or less evened out.

DH and I usually just DTD all through out as we feel like it and make sure to DTD the week during O at least every other day. I agree with the other ladies I dont think there is any issue with that.

With miscarriages it really depends on the particular situation. Depending on the type of miscarriage, how far along, and any special circumstances. For me I had to wait 6 months after my first because of the type and no time after the second so it really just depends.

As far as working out my doctor has said anything is fine as long as I am doing it with in reason so I think your plan sounds great!

Are you taking prenatal vitamins?

I hope your stay on this board is short and sweet! I look forward to getting to know you!

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Molar pregnancy loss (12 weeks) - 1/2013
Missed Miscarriage (10 weeks) - 6/2013
Early Miscarriage (5 weeks) - 12/2016

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September 9th, 2013, 08:01 AM
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I am not yet taking prenatal vitamins, I live 2 hours away from a city so I will stock up on some the next time I go in for groceries Right now I'm just taking a women's multivitamin, it does have 400mcg of folic acid.
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September 9th, 2013, 11:06 AM
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I'm Jen (27). I dont really have anything to add as the other ladies seemed to have answered your questions pretty well. About the multivitamins, what your taking sounds fine -its the folic acid that most important whilst ttc and in early pregnancy.

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September 12th, 2013, 10:05 AM
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I went to town & got some prenatal vitamins
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September 12th, 2013, 10:21 AM
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I don't really have anything to add either because the other ladies covered it all pretty well! Just wanted to say welcome!!

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September 12th, 2013, 10:49 AM
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September 12th, 2013, 12:08 PM
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I stopped taking BCP long before we started trying. The last one I was on gave me horrible heart palpitations so I just decided to not be on anything at all and just use different protection. I certainly don't think you have to wait until your cycle regulates for TTC you could casually do the BD and see what happens.

I also don't chart. I just stick to using OPK's. I found that I kept forgetting to take my temperature so I stopped. This month is the first month we're TTC so I'll let you know if my method works haha.

Welcome aboard. Everyone here is super nice and there is always someone who is quick to answer your question.

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September 12th, 2013, 01:20 PM
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Well, I dont want to randomly try because we want to try for a boy. If we get a girl instead, we'll love her immensly, we just want to give it a try. If it works, we'll then try the girl methods. A healthy baby is the goal, but if we're gonna plan & plot & try, we may as well try for a certain gender, and a boy is the one we decided to try for first. (dont worry, though- ALL babies will be loved, no matter the gender!!!)
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September 12th, 2013, 02:29 PM
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We're doing the same thing. I've always dreamt about having a girl first we're trying to plan it so that we do the BD a few days before I O. Regardless I'll be ecstatic no matter what we have.

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