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December 1st, 2013, 06:09 AM
KellJoO's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I was trying so hard to remain optimistic and excited for this cycle and I knew that over thanksgiving there was a slim to none chance that I would hear anyone on my side of the family was pregnant. I spent the summer watching both of my brothers wives have babies and my 18 year old niece. After a miscarriage in February that in itself was a blow to the heart.

So I get a phone call on Friday morning from my mom. She found out some news and wanted to tell us before we heard face to face from them. My older brother and his wife are pregnant again. They just had their first baby in may.

And it was an accident. "They didn't mean for it to happen - they didn't want another one yet"

That last line about put me over the edge. Didn't want another one yet?!? Maybe you should have done something to prevent it then. And to say something so insensitive when they know for a fact we are trying and have been trying for quite some time now. I told my mom thanks for telling me ahead of time- because if they said that to my face I am certain that I would turn into a puddle and cause a scene.

It would be one thing if they were trying. But they weren't- and "they didn't want it to happen this soon" seriously f*ck off

Then I got told thru text message by them.

I'm trying to ignore it- and be happy for this little baby but I can't help but feel pissed off and resentful.

rant over
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December 1st, 2013, 10:07 AM
butterfly721's Avatar Mommy-to-be to a baby boy
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I'm so sorry. I have felt this way before when other people have announced their pregnancies. I wish I could give you a big hug. Please just know that your feelings are completely normal. It is okay to feel angry and frustrated and resentful.


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December 1st, 2013, 10:17 AM
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oh sweetie I'm sorry *hugs*
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December 1st, 2013, 10:45 AM
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I'm so sorry kell.... For more than one reason
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December 1st, 2013, 12:55 PM
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I'm so sorry
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December 1st, 2013, 08:41 PM
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That's so miserable, I'm so sorry
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December 1st, 2013, 09:39 PM
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Yeah... that sucks....
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December 2nd, 2013, 07:32 AM
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Oh Kell I am so so so sorry I went through the same thing with my best friend. It really is so hard. We are here for you anytime

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