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July 18th, 2007, 09:08 PM
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Within the past week I found out my sister-in-law is pregnant, and a couple that got married 2 weeks before DH and I did just found out as well. I just feel like everyone is getting pregnant except me!!

I don't post at JM much anymore as I just started to find it too hard. In the beginning (a year or more ago) I found it fun to come on here compare symptoms, track my cycles, etc. But month after month just became more disappointing than the last. I've done really well the past 2-3 months now, trying not to think of TTC too much. Dh and I haven't been rigidly timing BD every month and just tried to have fun and not think about it hoping I would end up pregnant, but that hasn't worked either.

Now this week I hear about them getting pregnant (and don't get me wrong I am SUPER excited to be an Aunt again) but hearing that got me all excited and I just wish it could be me pregnant for a change. Anyways, thanks for sitting through my complaing, I try not to get DH worked up by me getting all emotional and ranting about it because I don't want to upset him. Its just hard listening to all my family talking about my sis-in-law being pregnant and how excited they are, etc. Anyway, I feel a little better now getting some of that out. Hopefully it happens for all of us soon to put us out of our TTC misery! Good luck ladies.
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July 18th, 2007, 11:38 PM
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I totally understand what you are going through. I just looked up some old high school classmates because next summer should be my 10 year reunion. It seems like half the people I graduated are either pregnant, married to someone who is, or just had a baby! It's so frustrating!
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July 19th, 2007, 03:02 AM
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I know how you feel too. From my cousin having her 5th kid just to "sale" it to my best friend's sister to Nicole *bleeping* Richie it seems I'm the only one who can't get pregnant. It's getting a little annoying and if it keeps happening I'm going to lose it!
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July 19th, 2007, 09:11 PM
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I sooooo know how you feel ladies.

Let's see, since my husband & I started TTC last year...

-Both of my brother's spouses are pregnant (and are both due this fall).
-4 of my cousins & 2 of my husbands cousins became pregnant (some have already delivered).
-6 friends became pregnant (one has delivered).
-A coworker's spouse is expecting.

It's enough to drive me batty. Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled for all of them. But is is so draining trying to be happy for them and trying not to be jealous or sad for oneself. And of course, just about every relative asks when we're going to start having babies! Granted, they don't know our situation, but still... it's so frustrating. You try to paste a smile and shrug, but inside you want to burst out crying.

Sometimes I just want to scream "When is it going to be my turn?!" Bah.

It's validating to hear others who are going through the same thing feel the same way. It makes me feel better knowing I'm not the only one... though I wish none of us had to feel this way at all!
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July 20th, 2007, 09:05 PM
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I totally understand hun, within our time(20 cycles) I have had 2 good friends get pg have their DD a SIL get pg have her son on my birthday and now my sister is 6 mos pg due in Nov. They seem to come all at once too, thank goodness I dont have anyone close to me anymore, so I cant hear someone else is pg!
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July 22nd, 2007, 07:48 AM
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Thanks ladies I knew some of you would be in the same boat. You are right Nicole, a lot of my family found out about my brothers wife being pregnant with their second and now some are wondering when DH and I are going to have a baby. I just want to tell them that "we have been trying!!!!!!" but I don't want a ton of people to know, because then I feel like it will put even more pressure on DH and I.

I'm due for AF today, no sign of her yet, I'm still holding out some hope for this month...
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July 24th, 2007, 11:36 AM
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I totally understand what you are going through.. My husband and I have been trying for almost a year, and it seems like everybody but me has been blessed to get PG. I have begun to think that maybe there is a problem with me... my husband has had 2 children from a past relationship, and so I know that his pipes are working.. but, I am still trying and hopefully one of these days I will be blessed also. I dont think that family members know how much stress they put on a couple who are having issues with TTC. I am an only child in my family, and all I ever hear from my parents is how much they would love to have a grandchild... talk about added stress.... Then, I have to endure my stepdaughter telling me that her mommie is pregnant with her 3rd child.. man, talk about feeling the pressure.... Anywho, I will pray for you, and I will have a talk with the TTC fairy and tell her to sprinkle you with some baby dust, and hope that the outcome goes well. God bless!! and lots of hugs to you!!!
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July 25th, 2007, 06:37 PM
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I must say ya'll make me feel "normal".
I found out in January that my LITTLE brother is having a baby, so ...my parents are going to be grandparents for the first time. Boy was I MAD....I figured, I was the oldest...and I was the only one married. Y are they having a baby, Y can't it be my dh & I? I'm still not completely happy about it...I'm glad to finally be an aunt but, geeze.
Then ppl at work whom aren't even trying to get pregnant....are popping up pregnant.
I would jump out of my skin with excitement, they act like it's no big deal (ouch).
Then this past week, this couple that my dh & I started hanging around...she found out that she's pregnant.
Are you kidding....oh my...I had to appologize to her cuz I was soooo mad, I was mean to the 2 of them.
It's so hard sometimes to control your feelings when you see someone else get blessed with such a beautiful miracle.
The more I think about it.....they just met 5 months ago, got married a month after they met.
They have NO JOB, NO APARTMENT, NO CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have a job, a car, a house, & i'm married.....on & on....why can't I be the pregnant one??? geeze!

SO, lol...i'm sorry, I do know how ya feel!!!
One day, it will be OUR TURN!!!!
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July 25th, 2007, 09:17 PM
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I sort of know what you mean, Jamielee. I always assumed I would be the first of my siblings to get pregnant. I'm not the oldest (I'm #2 of 3), but I'm the only girl, so I just assumed I would be first. Now I will be the last of us to have kids.

Though it's really frustrating to listen to people who don't want to get pregnant, but become pregnant and then complain about it, I can understand they are in a place they don't want to be (just as we are). It's that "grass is always greener" mentality.

I am sure we will all be pregnant soon. Then these horribly frustrating times will all just melt away.
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July 26th, 2007, 12:32 AM
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Well, as time goes by and everyone else has babies I feel bad for people who ask about DH and I getting pregnant! The look on their face after I say we've been ttc and had no luck is like I broke an egg on their head. I think they feel like it was an inappropriate question after asking it but I have no problem talking about it except for knowing they feel like an idiot after asking and hearing my answer. As more people get pregnant and there are more baby showers to go to I'm going to be seeing the "face" more often (unless we get that BFP this cycle!!!!!)
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July 30th, 2007, 10:52 AM
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Hi,

I don't post very often either anymore as I too find it quite hard and makes me think about it too much. I just found out that my sis in law is preggy too, and also several of my good friends. Annoyingly my sister in law doesn't do anything with her life and this is just like another phase she's going through. I had to spend two long days with her this week whilst she stuck out her 10week belly and stroked it and spoke incessantly to her 'sproglet'. She even had the cheek to say that this person we know who had a miscarriage only had it because she's dim and doesn't know what to do when she's pregnant!!! She followed this up with an evening of "I can't have that it has artifical flavourings in it, " "I can't have that because the baby doesn't like it" "you're not supposed to have too much red meat when you're pregnant" followed swiftly with "I'll have a glass of red wine please". ARRRGH!!!! She drove me crazy. I'm jealous yeah, but she's so insensitive. She knows we've been trying for 10 months, and we waited til we were properly reasy financially etc, not like her who NEVER works.

Sorry. Not bitter!!!
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July 30th, 2007, 02:31 PM
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Hello there, I am new here, but have been trying to conceive #1 for 11 months. I understand what you are going through. Many of my friends, husbands co-workers and family members have been falling pregnant lately, some of them whom weren't even trying or welcoming it, and it really does hurt! Keep your head up sweetie, it WILL happen for us. It's going to happen when we least expect it. If only we all could figure out exactly HOW you're supposed to "least expect" the one thing you want MOST in this entire world. Hmmm
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August 1st, 2007, 07:11 PM
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If only we all could figure out exactly HOW you're supposed to "least expect" the one thing you want MOST in this entire world. Hmmm [/b]
I know exactly what you mean! I wish somehow I could "forget" about TTC and just happen to get pregnant when I least expect it!
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August 7th, 2007, 07:40 AM
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I know! What is the "when you least expect it" secret?! Someone please tell me because I least expected it years ago when I wasn't seeing anyone! LOL.

My husband & I have decided to take a trip to Cancun in October to try to relax and focus on something other than baby making with the hopes that not focusing on it will provide the desired results. (Assuming we're not pregnant before then.) But the longer we keep trying, the harder it is not to focus on it. Plus, I'm ovulating later in my cycles which provides us with fewer cycles & thus fewer opportunities to conceive, which is making me even more panicky! Ay yi yi!

I'm only 32, but I feel like I'm running out of time. Ugh.
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August 9th, 2007, 10:36 AM
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Hello ladies,
I'm new to this but I completely understand. DH and I have been TTC for 4yrs it just seems like its never going to happen. Iíve got his mom bugging me all the time. My aunts, sister, grandmother, cuzns, and friends ask me all the time so when are you going to have one? My answer is well its not like we havenít been trying it just hasn't happened . His mom got so excited when she heard we were fixing up the house lol she thought i was prego and was trying to fix it b4 baby came . Sheís got 2 kids DH and a 18 year old daughter, so naturally DH being her oldest and only son heís expected to give her her firs GC.
We were both in the army and just got out last year around May. I figured the stress we both were going through may have been the cause. Now I am one to easily stress so that may be my prob.
Anyone have any ideas to help with ttc? Iíd really appreciate any help. And sorry for going on and on I just had no idea where I could post and get responses
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August 10th, 2007, 09:34 AM
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Hello ladies,
I'm new to this but I completely understand. DH and I have been TTC for 4yrs it just seems like its never going to happen. Iíve got his mom bugging me all the time. My aunts, sister, grandmother, cuzns, and friends ask me all the time so when are you going to have one? My answer is well its not like we havenít been trying it just hasn't happened . His mom got so excited when she heard we were fixing up the house lol she thought i was prego and was trying to fix it b4 baby came . Sheís got 2 kids DH and a 18 year old daughter, so naturally DH being her oldest and only son heís expected to give her her firs GC.
We were both in the army and just got out last year around May. I figured the stress we both were going through may have been the cause. Now I am one to easily stress so that may be my prob.
Anyone have any ideas to help with ttc? Iíd really appreciate any help. And sorry for going on and on I just had no idea where I could post and get responses [/b]
Have you guys considered going to a fertility specialist? My co-worker was trying for 9 years, she has very irregular periods, she gets her period about 4 times a year. They went to a fertility specialists and then was able to conceive triplets. She had to take some kind of drug. You can also try the ovulation kits on the market, find out exactly when you ovulate and make sure to do it before and during ovulation. Good luck!
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August 17th, 2007, 01:03 PM
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I also posted this in the TTC boards, but I did finally make it to the Dr. yesterday. She remembered me coming in for my pap a year ago telling her I wanted to TTC. She asked if we were still trying I said "yes, with no luck". So since I'm due for AF on Monday she had them draw blood to check my progesterone, and she is sending DH to a Dr. to have an SA. I am going back for an appointment in two weeks to discuss (I assume) DH's SA, and my blood work. If everything checks out there, she said we would do an HSG and take it from there. I really hope nothing is wrong, I will be very anxious these next 2 weeks. Of course, I'm praying that AF will not come on Monday and I will be pregnant and not have to worry about any of this!
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