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October 2nd, 2008, 07:35 AM
MamaTTx2's Avatar Super Mommy
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This is my first real post here and oh geez, I don't even know how to start. I hate that I am even having to write this...it means that I am not in control anymore, that I am not as strong as I have been pretending to be.

So, I will be 12 weeks tomorrow and I have an appointment with the OB. I am so scared!!!! At 8 weeks, I had some spotting and went to the ER. They did an ultrasound but could not point anything out to me on the screen because it was an "emergency situation". My DH watched the screen but I didn't have the courage to even look. The baby had a heartrate of 163. At 9 weeks, I had an appt. with my OB but he couldn't find the heartbeat with the dopple--he said it was too early and not to worry BUT I have worried myself insane over these past 3 weeks! I cry or am on the verge of crying every minute of every day. My family thinks that I am just being absurd so I don't really tell them too much of what i am feeling. DH is just trying to being soooo positive for both of us but that is making it even worse for me. I am TERRIFIED about my appt. tomorrow. I have had no problems, no bleeding or cramping, bb's still sore (but that comes and goes), m/s still happening so I know deep down that I shouldn't be so worried but I just can't help it. i guess the thing that is always in the back of my mind is that in January I had a missed mc and my baby had died 3 weeks before i even started spotting. That still tears me up inside. I didn't even know that my baby was gone. I know that there is very little that I can actually control regarding the outcome of this pregnancy and I have put it all in the hands of God.

Anyway, sorry for the long rambling. I was just looking for some kind words from you wonderful, strong women. Thank you so much.

With lots of love,

Kaylee Rose (born April 13, 2009)
Ethan Lucas (5 yrs. old)
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October 2nd, 2008, 07:48 AM
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Welcome Tara! I'm sorry you're having such a hard time right now. We can all relate. I hope the appt tomorrow is great and you see your baby and a very strong hb. Please let us know how it goes.

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October 2nd, 2008, 08:24 AM
keekopeeko's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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yup... I can definately relate.... But really...if your Dr. couldnt find the heart beat at 9 weeks with the DOPPLER thats no shock! im surprised he even tried to find it! Im sure theyll find it today! Just dont be to upset if it still takes a little while.. sometimes even at 12 weeks its hard to find with a doppler..

~Em, Married to Matt since 7/3/04. Mommy to Layla 3/29/06, Eva 10/18/08, Zeke 2/4/11, and Jonah 7/28/13

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October 2nd, 2008, 08:47 AM
Pitridge's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Ohhh, I'm sorry you are so scare, I can also relate. When I went for my 12W appointment I was a mess, the night before I was sick, I did not sleep all night, and the next day was no better, but when I heard the h/b all the fears went away. It's normal to be scare, I think most of us are scare/nervous every appointment that we have. We are here for you, I hope your appointment goes well, let us know how it went.
And by the way Welcome and Congrats on your pregnancy!

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October 2nd, 2008, 09:07 AM
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I'm sorry you are having such a rough time! Welcome to PAL! We're all here for the same reason, being pregnant after a loss is HARD. I hope everything is absolutely fine at your appointment and alleviates your fears as much as possible!! Good luck, and keep us posted!!

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October 2nd, 2008, 09:58 AM
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welcome to the board !

I agree with the other gals, 9 weeks is early to hear it with a doppler.....many things factor into this.....especially if the placenta is anterior. That makes if even harder to hear it, and to feel movements until later in the pregnancy.
I am sending you lots of positive thoughts ! Please update us when you can !!

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October 2nd, 2008, 11:04 AM
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oh honey, i know that feeling... i hope everything goes well. just pray that God is taking good care of you and the baby... he is in control now.

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October 2nd, 2008, 11:45 AM
MamaTTx2's Avatar Super Mommy
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Thank you all so much for your kind words. They were exactly what I needed. I knew that I would be able to count on my pals!
I also wanted to you are all so wonderful for welcoming me in to your group with wide, open arms. I hope to be able to provide the same kind of love and support to all of youif you are ever in need.
I will update you on how the appointment goes when i get back tomorrow. Send prayers please!!

Lots of love,

Kaylee Rose (born April 13, 2009)
Ethan Lucas (5 yrs. old)
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October 2nd, 2008, 12:52 PM
jademyst13's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Welcome to the board. I have to agree with everyone else.
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October 2nd, 2008, 01:18 PM
kalis's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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i hope you have a great appointment tomorrow! i understand how scared you are, it will be nice to have reassurance fom your doctor.
my ob won't even attempt to use the doppler until women are at least twelve weeks just so he doesn't freak anyone out.
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