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October 8th, 2008, 06:57 AM
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Hi all! I'm newly pregnant after 2 miscarriages. How do you all do it? I mean get through this first trimester?! I'm barely 6 weeks pregnant and it seems like it's been FOREVER! I just can't seem to stop worrying. Like today for instance, my breasts don't hurt nearly as much as they did yesterday...bad sign??

I have an ultrasound tomorrow...and am nervous. According to my charting I won't be quite 6 weeks so I assume I won't see baby...just like my last pregnancy. So in that case I'd go back in a week...which I did last time and saw baby and heartbeat...but it doesn't really calm me much as that's what we saw last time...only to end up m/c again.

Sorry to sound so negative...I just can't seem to get excited yet and haven't even really accepted that I"m pregnant yet...it seems so odd to hear a doctor or nurse say "congratulations"...
Kelly -
#1 MC at 5 weeks
#2MC at 7 weeks
I'm pregnant! Due June 4th and on Lovenox
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October 8th, 2008, 08:04 AM
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Kelly --
I can't tell you how to get through the 1st semester, cuz I haven't done that yet either. I also haven't really accepted that I'm pregnant yet. I don't think the worry every really goes away. All I can say is try not to let it overwhelm you. It is VERY common for symptoms to come and go, so try not to let a change in your symptoms worry you too much. Hang in there!

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October 8th, 2008, 08:53 AM
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Hi Kelly
I'm sorry to hear about your losses but you have came to the right place. I think the first trimester is the hardest because you are constantly worrying about something. I don't have any words of wisdom on how to get through the first trimester but I will tell you what helped me get through. I tried to stay as positive as I could and thank god I had the girls in here to answer my question and concerns otherwise I don't know how I would of made it through. I know it's hard to get excited at first, but you'll see that as the weeks go by you will get more and more excited and as you pass each milestone it will get easier...The worry, sorry to say it never goes away.


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October 8th, 2008, 09:05 AM
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Hi hun, Im sorry to hear about your losses.

I got my bfp at 9dpo and boy it seems like its going to take ages to get through the 1st trimester! I wish I could go to sleep and wake up at 12 weeks lol.

My symptoms dissapeared the other week and it worried me, now they are back full force! I think alot of women say they come and go like that, I know its hard but try not to worry yourself

I too have an u/s tomorrow and i am really scared so I know how you feel


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October 8th, 2008, 10:41 AM
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Hello sweetie,
I found out i was expecting before my period was even due. I have worried everyday since then! I just had an ultrasound last Friday and saw the baby dancing around and saw the heartbeat so this past week has been GREAT for me. Like i said, i worried every day and couldn't eat but since the u/s I have gained 3 pounds (in under a week!). I know how tuff it is but God made mothers tuff too! You will find a way to make it through and we are all here for you whenever you are scared or anxious. We have all been down the same sad road.
I hope for only the best for you and your bubba!

Kaylee Rose (born April 13, 2009)
Ethan Lucas (5 yrs. old)
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October 8th, 2008, 10:53 AM
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lovie i am in the same boat as you right now!! i dont know how to get excited about this one... im in limbo really.... my first scan is on friday and i am petrified!!! i am so nervous for it but i keep taking my mind off it, keeping myself busy - that stops me from thinking about it. i have come to the understanding that God has taking this pregnancy into His own hands, He will do what He wants to do. if i mc again, it will be for His reasons. i really really really really hope i can keep this baby!! i pray everyday that i will see this baby in June next year kicking and screaming and pooping and burping and vomiting!! i want it all lol....
we hear for you hon!! the whole way!

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October 8th, 2008, 11:45 AM
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It is totally normal to feel how you are feeling, the first trimester is sooooo scary after a loss. I was terrified every day, but I tried to take it one day at a time, and I would celebrate at the end of each day for making it one more day!! and my boobs were sore off and on, so no it is not a bad sign. just try to take it one day at a time, write a journal if that helps. treat yourself at the end of the day, celebrate that you made it one more day!!
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October 8th, 2008, 11:49 AM
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Hello and Welcome Kelly!

Its never easy to feel normal through a pregnancy after a loss. I would find something to do that would take your mind off of it. Like make a scrapbook stuff like that.

Congrats on your pregnancy and i wish you all the best in the next 9 months!!

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October 8th, 2008, 12:08 PM
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I just can't seem to stop worrying. Like today for instance, my breasts don't hurt nearly as much as they did yesterday...bad sign??[/b]
Nope, not at all. Happens to most of us, symptoms come and go. Even morning sickness. You can feel sick as a dog for a week, then have a day where you feel great. That'll really freak you out - it did me!

Anyhow, big HUGS, I know how you are feeling. I think all of us feel/felt that way. PAL is just as scary as it is exciting, so know you are not alone. We are here whenever you feel anxious, and I have found the ladies here are so wonderful in calming fears. Maybe once you get past 7 weeks you will start to feel a little better. I think there is something about getting past your loss points that brings some peace. In the meantime though, try to stay busy, that is my best advice.

Angels in Heavan.
Helena May, June 28, 2007 & Alexander Michael, October 11, 2007
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