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February 7th, 2006, 06:45 PM
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Ok, not really relaxing here, but just taking a deep breath. The genetist (spelling?) was really pushing for me to get an early amnio even though my risk is only .5%. Early is between 12 and 15 weeks. I called my OB and asked him what the thought and he was like It is only .5% chance and the risk of m/c from an early amnio is 1.5%. No early amnio. Go with the one at 16 weeks where the risk of m/c is .5% the same as me having a problem with the baby. He said the early ones are just dangerous because the amount of fluid they take compared to what is there at say 13 weeks is too much and sometimes the baby can't recover, but at 16 weeks there is a lot more fluid in there.

Anyhow, I am trying real hard to focus on the 99.5% chance everything is ok although it is hard for me. After I found out about the .5%, I wouldn't even look for the baby's heartbeat with my doppler, I just didn't care if the baby lived or died at that point. I had already written him/her off as doomed. However, a week later, I am feeling a little bit more positive. Don't know how long it will stay as I still have a doomed feeling.

I have my next regular OBs appt on the 15th and I'm going to ask him if they saw any hard markers for down's or what, basically what did they find that changed my results so dramatically from my last pregnancy.
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February 7th, 2006, 07:19 PM
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I am glad you are relaxing a bit, I hope that all goes well and I am sure your little one is giong to be just fine. You are doing the right thing with only concentrating on the small percentage. Just keep taking those deep breaths and we are all here for you.

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February 7th, 2006, 07:25 PM
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It makes me so sad to think that you feel this baby was ever "doomed." I dont feel that way for you at all! In fact, I think a .5% is NOTHING to worry about! If I were you, I wouldnt even get the amnio- why go through that pain? (So I am a scardy cat when it comes to needles!)
Hang in there, I am cheering for you and your little one! Everything will be fine, I know it!
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February 8th, 2006, 07:53 AM
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Susan, if you thinkabout it, we are all at some small percent risk for having a baby with some sort of problem that may cause the death of the child either in utero or shortly thereafter, regardless of our ages. Chances are that nothing will be wrong with your baby. I understand where you are coming from though. I see horrible things affecting newborns everyday, I see a baby die at least once a week. I see infants who were very premature leaving the hospital finally only to be diagnosed with Cerebal Palsy later on. I always think, how could I handle this if this were my child? I can't think about it anymore, all I can do is live my life and deal with things as they come. Please take care of yourself, dont give up on the little fellow. I am glad that you are starting to feel better. Keep us updated.
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February 8th, 2006, 08:25 AM
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(((hugs))) I'm glad you are relaxing a bit. It's hard, isn't it?? I hope that all goes well!!
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February 8th, 2006, 02:50 PM
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I am glad you are feeling better. You are in my thoughts and prayers. blessings B
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