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June 21st, 2009, 08:15 PM
megal40's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Hi Ladies, I have had two m/c. One before my daughter was born and one about 3 months ago. I find myself pg again and a little (a lot) freaked out. Getting pg doesn't seem to be our problem. It is staying that way that presents the problem. Anyway, right now I have gotten past the "wow there are two line!" and I have moved on to the please please please don't let me go through another loss.

Although I have already been through one pregnancy after a loss, I felt like with that one I kept telling my self that one m/c doesn't increase the risk of another loss. But now having been through two, I don't want to feel doomed this whole time.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to keep from obsessing over the bad and looking at the good?

Thanks ladies.

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June 21st, 2009, 09:27 PM
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Stay positive!

That's what I have done this entire pregnancy. I had two losses before this baby. There isn't a way to forget what happened in the past, but try not to let it affect you this time around. Best of luck!

Congrats on your pregnancy!

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June 21st, 2009, 10:24 PM
Brittanie's Avatar just me
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Oh congratulations honey!! I have more to say but can't right now so I'll have to post again. Just wanted to say congrats!
Thanks to babydoll213 for the siggy! My kids' blog Cora's blog

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June 22nd, 2009, 06:54 AM
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Congrats on the pregnancy! I too have no problems getting pregnant, but have trouble carrying things through. I had a m/c in Dec. 08 & find myself pregnant again. I had an ultrasound last week at 6.5 weeks & things don't look good. I am waiting to get my levels back today & am hoping for some good news. I will keep my fingers crossed & think good thoughts for you as well. I know it's hard to do, but try to keep positive!
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June 22nd, 2009, 07:35 AM
IAMommy's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Congrats on your pg!! It is very hard being pal. So many fears and emotions that really overtake you. I think the best peice of advise I ever received was to make little mini goals. Even one goal a day, and celebrate each goal met. Your goalsl can be simple things like - I made it to 4 weeks, or I made my first OB appt, or anything at all. Just take time to really celebrate the positives, and share your joy with others! Good luck, and we are always here for you.
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June 22nd, 2009, 09:06 AM
Pitridge's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Congrats!! PAL is very hard and very scary, you have come to the right place, the girls here are beyond wonderful and supportive. I agree with Sam, setting mini goals. Also each day it's a mini goal, you made it thru the day. Take each day as it comes, enjoy being pg and stay positive ( i know easier said than done).

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June 22nd, 2009, 10:30 AM
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YAY congrats, great to see you join us over here!!! PAL is tough, but we have each other and the ladies here definitely kept me sane during my 1st tri...

Savannah Stylin!

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June 22nd, 2009, 01:51 PM
megal40's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Thanks everyone! I hope to be part of this board for a happy and health 9 months!

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June 22nd, 2009, 01:56 PM
Jenn1320's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I agree w/ Sam. Milestones are a great way to get through the early weeks. Also maybe you could have your doc bring you in for level checks? A bit stressful waiting for the results, but it seemed to help me feel like I was doing something proactive.


Thank you Vicki for an beautiful siggy!

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June 22nd, 2009, 06:48 PM
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Hey!CONGRATUATIONS! I am so happy for you! Welcome to PAL. I agree with everyone about the mini-goals and milestones. It seems to make the 40 wks seem a little less daunting. Just know that sooo many of us feel terrified being PAL. And, venting to these ladies has been terrific for me. They understand and they've all been through it. And, we have the "grads" here that made it through PAL and have their absolutely adorable little ones to serve as "success stories" for each of us. Set the goals and lean on us...that's what we're all here for getting and giving support.

Congratulations again! Please keep us posted as to how things are going? How are you feeling? I'm wishing you a happy and healthy nine months and I'm saying a little prayer for you and your little one
Kelty---Mom of 4 boys!

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