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March 2nd, 2006, 03:45 PM
LeedaRenee's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Remember my coworker I posted about who had a loss around the same time I did and is now pregnant again? She told me this morning that they couldnt find a hb on her last u/s and that she was getting a D&C this morning (she works the night shift). She said it so calmly that I thought I must have heard it wrong. I reacted strongly and tried not to cry, but I did, I couldn't help it. I said she should try to do a quanitative HCG before going for her D/C and she said, there's no heartbeat, it's not like it's going to appear out of nowhere. I didn't know what to say after that, and we parted in silence. I was so upset for the rest of the morning. It's so unfair. Then I found out that another coworker who's wife had a tubal pg a few months back just had another m/c. It makes me sad, it makes me afraid, it makes me mad. I feel pretty down right now.
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March 2nd, 2006, 04:06 PM
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It is so hard to see anyone else go through, especially because you understand the pain first hand. How far along was she that they are so sure that she was supposed to have a heartbeat now?

I know it gets hard to see this happen. Just remember...I appreciated other people's understanding as I went through this, but on the occassion I has someone really be hurt, it just made me feel bad that my situation was making them sad. try not to be sad, just compassionate. I know easier said than done. (((hugs))) I hope that you find some way to find comfort through talking abut it.
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March 2nd, 2006, 04:12 PM
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I tried not to show how upset I was, but it was like I could see that happening to me all over again. She was 8 weeks along andthey had seen a heartbeat like 2 weeks earlier. She went in for dehydration and they did that second one and could find none. I just want her baby to be ok, however unlikely that is.
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March 2nd, 2006, 04:36 PM
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I know how you feel. A friend of mine who had a loss around the same time as me had a m/c two weeks ago. My other friend who had a m/c when I was pregnant with Cassie (she was a week ahead of me) m/c when I found out I was pregnant again, just had a 3rd m/c last week. It is so hard. I feel so bad.
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March 2nd, 2006, 05:27 PM
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oh that's sooo sad. Blessings B
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March 3rd, 2006, 06:40 AM
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That is so, so sad
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March 5th, 2006, 07:20 AM
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I am so sorry to hear about what is happening to your friends. I do understand what you are going through. One of my girlfriends and I where both preg. in 09/05 and I had a m/c and she was still preg. Then I got preg in 11/05 an she had a miscarriage 12/05. Then I had a miscarrige 1/06. Then we just found out a couple of weeks ago that we where both preg. again. An just this last weekend she had a m/c. We met for lunch yesterday. I say just be there for her. No matter what happens. An yes it's hard to not show your emotions but it's pretty normal. Just pray for your friends. I don't know how close you are to this friend. With my girlfriend we have decided that when we're having a bad day we would call on eachother. An we have just been support for each other. Even if it's a shoulder to cry on.

Best of luck

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March 6th, 2006, 12:00 AM
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So Sad.
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March 6th, 2006, 07:41 AM
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