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April 19th, 2006, 08:33 AM
*~Candy~*'s Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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*HUGS* I am so sorry, sometimes I think its hard for husbands to comprend the reality of the situation. Its like b/c they dont' actually see a baby they find it hard to understand and sympathize. I am sure he loves the baby and is concerned, they just show it in a different way. We are all here for you to vent to, its so stressful and scary. I feel that my DH sometimes doesn't understand the full capacity of it all either. But i guess since we are the ones carrying the child it is a little more intense for us. That is why women get pregnant and NOT men.

I am sorry hun, Lets hope he will come around and realize the importance of this to you and him.

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April 19th, 2006, 09:04 AM
Ethans_Mommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I am so sorry, although I must admit the sweat pants thing made me chuckle out loud. (I too am married to a sports fan, so I know what you go through!)

Anyway, he will come around. Talk to him tonight about it, but dont get too worked up. Men are different and unfortunately thats all we know about them!

Hang in there, let us be your sounding board!

Take it easy!
<div align="center">Stephanie aka "Queen of the Universe" Mommy to Ethan and Leah

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April 19th, 2006, 10:02 AM
Stacy29's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I understand what you're saying... I remember when I went through my last m/c, I just wanted to pray all the time (and I'm not at all super religious)... I just wanted so badly to ask God to take care of the baby.

Before m/c I prayed some too.... and AFTER the m/c, I told my DH... "I don't even think God listened to any of my prayers b/c this wouldn't have happened if He had"...

DH looked at me and said, "Obviously he did listen to you".... (b/c then we would have had a baby with problems had this not happened)... it made sense to me later. We aren't regular church-goers, but I know that times like this brings it all out. (I think me more than DH also)...

I'm sorry he was a little toot this morning. I'm hoping for the best for you!!!!

Braden Keith (11/22/06) & Kinsley Brooke (5/20/09)

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April 19th, 2006, 01:43 PM
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i think what also is going on is that this is happening to OUR bodies so we cannot forget it or even put it out of our mind. I NEVER ONCE have forgotten I am pregnant, My DH does all the time. when something is growing inside you, you are intimately attached to it (literally and figuratively). When we had infertility and loss issues, my dh NEVER took them as personal as me. I really think its a gender issue. just so you talk even if you dont' agree..
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