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March 11th, 2005, 12:04 PM
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Sometimes I think people just think I am doom and gloom or just negative. When people talk to me about spotting I always respond with a you need to call your doctor, with my friends and people on message boards. Sometimes I have a hard time being reassuring because of my experience. I remember when I had my second miscarriage, I had brown spotting and everyone kept telling me oh thats nothing to worry about. You only need to worry about red spotting. So now I have a hard time when anyone has any spotting not thinking the worst. Its not that I want anyone to miscarry its just my natural reaction. I always worry. If I see any spotting at all I freak. I feel like sometimes people get upset with me like well just because that happened to you doesn't mean that will happen to me. I like to post on the pregnancy after mc boards because I feel like the moms here can relate with my worrying and sometimes negativity. I don't really think its negativity for me its just my coping mechanism. I seem to always prepare myself for the worst. And I also know how doctors are. They will sit there and tell you don't worry when your bleeding and not even see you if you don't have a history of recurrent mc. I think everyone that has any spotting should be seen right away and I don't like how many doctors brush this off. Anyway, just needed to talk about this.

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March 11th, 2005, 01:36 PM
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When i miscarried, it started as brown spotting too. Then it stopped for almost 24 hours. Then the next morning, it was like pink, it wasn't until that night that I actually had any red at all and we went straight to the ER. When I got there I still was barely bleeding, but it was too late already.

I totally know where you are coming from and have had 2 major freakouts this pregnancy. The first was some red spotting at 11 weeks and the second was a couple days ago with red spotting too. I had to beg the dr. office to give me an u/s when the early one happened, but thankfully they did and everything was okay. But I to think all bleeding (especially early on) should be checked.

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March 11th, 2005, 10:35 PM
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I agree. I never had spotting with my m/c. I actually went 2 days after finding out that my baby had died inutero before my D&C. It was Easter weekend and my dr was worried I would have complications over the weekend and not be able to get him. I totally think that spotting calls for a visit to the dr.
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March 14th, 2005, 10:08 AM
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I havent had any spotting this time around but when I lost my baby in December I had some brown spotting for a few days. I too was told by the ladies in another forum that it was nothing to worry about. I didnt go to the ER until I was really bleeding and in a lot of pain... I wish that I would have gone sooner...
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March 21st, 2005, 05:47 AM
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Mine was dark reddish brown. One thing I can say about this clinic though, if you see any blood at all before 20 weeks you go right to the ER. She made me do a urine sample first thing and it was full of blood. I wasn't in the waiting room 2 minutes. I got the standard speech too, that many women bleed and go on to have healthy babies. Now that I've been through it I always think the worse too. I know for me the chances of bleeding and not miscarrying are probably zero. I don't think its pessimestic as much as realistic. I didn't accept that this baby was actually going to happen until I started feeling movement. Defense mechanism, I'm sure. Once we've miscarried we lose that innocence we had before. Sometimes I miss that, just sheer joy and no worry.

Kristal, even if you had gone sooner, chances are there was nothing that could have been done. I bled a bit that sent me to the ER, but that was it, then just brownish spotting and not every day and I didn't have any pain until I passed the sac, thats when all the blood and pain came. The baby was already gone for about 2 weeks when I went to the ER, another 2 when I passed the sac. You would have probably known sooner, but there was nothing they could have done. Don't blame yourself for not going sooner.
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March 21st, 2005, 12:30 PM
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You are not any of those things you call yourself. You have right to worry, I did the same thing...I never even spotted with my m/c or had cramping...it wasn't until DH and I had sex that I bled bright red. This time I have had spotting, all brown and I was freakin out...and probably driving DH nuts...for the last two weeks I have been calm, probably because I have seen the heartbeat 2 times and have stopped spotting...don't ask me besides that what keeps me calm...intuitions maybe...right now nothing could knock down the good feelings I get from knowing that I'm going to have a healthy baby...I had bad intuitions when I miscarried, I figure if I have good one's then I should trust them...good luck and lots of HUGS...you will pull through and you have no worries about what other people think of you...we luv u
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