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April 12th, 2010, 12:08 PM
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Hi. I'm Megan and I just found out that I am pregnant again. While we were trying, it's kind of a shock this month because I really didn't feel that I ovulated.

I had a m/c in January, and I am scared to death about this pregnancy. I am 11 DPO now... so I know it's early, but I am already feeling tired/nauseaus/pulling cramps, and I know that is a good sign... but I can't help but to just worry. I don't even feel like I can be excited yet.... How did you ladies get past that fear and be excited?

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April 12th, 2010, 12:33 PM
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For me the excitement has slowly crept in while the worry has very slowly crept out. I know I will never be as excited as I would like about this pregnancy but as somewho who has had multiple miscarriages... the only thing that helps is time.

Take things one day at a time and soon you will find the days fade into weeks and all of a sudden you are hittign all the milestones you set for yourself (past your loss date, then finished the first trimester, etc).

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April 12th, 2010, 01:03 PM
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Congrats! I agree with Michelle, just take one day at a time. Sometimes it even helps to think of it as minute by minute, and hour by hour, if you are having a really nervous day. Good luck, hun!!

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April 12th, 2010, 03:54 PM
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I agree about taking it a day at a time. I have found it is near impossible to NOT be scared, particularly in the first trimester... Slowly I have started getting more confident about the pregnancy, but that didn't really start happening until I reached around 20 weeks & I started getting a lot of regular, hard kicks....

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April 12th, 2010, 06:28 PM
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Definitely take one day at a time. For me, it also helped me to keep busy! I had lots of projects going during the first trimester of this pregnancy to keep my mind off of what could happen. Typically once I get past the first trimester, I feel much better.

I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

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April 12th, 2010, 07:05 PM
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Congrats on your BFP! All you can really do is take it one day at a time. There will be good days and there will be bad days, but at some point you just have to stop worrying or you'll go insane. The first trimester is always the hardest and I guess every time you reach a milestone it helps a lot.
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April 13th, 2010, 09:14 AM
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I look forward to milestones throughout the first trimester. Waiting only a week or so is a lot easier than waiting for 10-11 weeks. Here are some of my milestones

Getting good beta results
seeing a gestational sac
seeing/hearing a heartbeat
passing 8 weeks ( my 2nd loss was at 8 weeks)
hearing hb with doppler
passing 12 weeks (my 1st loss was at 12 weeks)
NT scan
second trimester

I haven't passed any of these milestones yet this pregnancy but I have gone in for my first beta and they are also testing my progesterone level. 15 weeks will also be a huge milestone for me since that is when we said goodbye ti Lilly.

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