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July 14th, 2010, 03:28 PM
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Last month I had a chemical pregnancy. I tested a few days before my period and it was a faint positive on the cheap drug store test. I waited until my period was due (Day 28) and took a digital test. It took the entire three minutes to calculate pregnant but it said "pregnant". My husband and I were so happy. The VERY next day I got my period. I had no idea what a chemical pregnancy was until it happened.

I told my husband that I would never check early again. Well, that didn't last and I found myself getting up at 5:30 in the morning last Friday (day 26) and took a digital test. It took almost three minutes again and read pregnant. We are trying not to get our hopes up too much. I took two tests on Saturday (the line tests at 25 HCG) and they were positive...not faint but not super dark. I took another digital test on Sunday and it came up Pregnant and it seemed like it came up a lot faster. I took another digital test yesterday morning (day 30) and it came up Pregnant after 27 blinks. (which would be less than a minute)

Does a faster digital test mean that my HCGs are higher? When will I be out of the chemical pregnancy fear. Do I have to wait til 6 weeks when I go in for an ultrasound? (assuming I make it that far). Also, sometimes i feel like i am getting my period but when i got to the bathroom, its nothing. It's been 6 days since i first took the test and 3-4 days since I would have expected my period.

I am 35 too (in case thats TMI)

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July 14th, 2010, 05:32 PM
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to me all digital test are very slow, they usally take about 3 mins. i will be 19 wks tomorrow (5 months) and im still scared even though i have seen her, heard the heart beat.

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July 14th, 2010, 06:24 PM
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Well, it doesn't really matter how you call it.. the risk of chemical pg changes into the scary odds of a miscarriage...I've had both a m/c and a chemical pregnancy .

A faster digi may mean a higher HCG, but the main thing about the HCG is that it has to be doubling.. You could ask your doctor to draw betas and compare the results in 48 hours (they have to be doubling). This time i was so scared that I went to the doctor's office as soon as I saw a BFP. So, you could wait till your 7th or 8th week for an ultrasound (because at 5 or 6 weeks you have a great chance of not seeing a heartbeat), or you could go asap and ask for a blood draw.

I had two u/s (at 7 weeks and 11 weeks) and I heard strong h/b many times. I am 13 weeks and I am still scared, even though the odds of miscarriage after 12 weeks are very low. So i do not really know when you start feeling calm.

I wish you happy and healthy 40 weeks!!!! I'd call your doctor and ask for betas!
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July 15th, 2010, 09:46 AM
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Thank you. I called the other day and I felt sort of brushed off. He told me basically that chemicals were no big deal and that every time you get pregnant, you have a 1 in 3 chance of making it to 6 weeks. I asked him if having a chemical last month, increase my odds of not having one this month and he said that it doesn't. It's still 1 in 3 and to just wait it out.

I took another test when i got home last night (47 blinks until it turned pregnant) and then another one this morning (37 blinks) until it turned pregnant. It wasn't as fast at the 27 blinks the other day but I don't think my bladder was as full or maybe its going away. It's now 4 weeks and 4 days and 6 days since I got my first positive.

I have never felt time go by so slow.
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July 15th, 2010, 12:55 PM
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I think I might have answered you somewhere else too, but like all the other ladies said, your fears won't go away. Like now, your in fear of having another chemical, when you hear the heartbeat, that fear might change to, I can't find the babies HB on the doppler or a fear of a loss, when you feel movement/or lack of movement, your fears will be, I haven't felt the baby move in awhile, or Im 20w or so and haven't felt movement. It's unfortunately a vicious never ending cycle. I'm 28 weeks and I still have freakout moments all the time. Like when I haven 't felt my girl move for a few hours, I start poking my belly to get her to move, or I grab my doppler to find the heartbeat (which sometimes makes it worse, cause not always can I find her heartbeat, but I can feel movement). I think right now I am terrified of basically all the things that can go wrong with the placenta. Cord around the neck, or abruption, to thin of placenta. I just hear so many sad stories about the placenta. Ok, so freaking everyone else out also, probably isn't a good thing, sorry my bad I know it will be hard, but don't stress!
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July 15th, 2010, 03:26 PM
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Here's the thing about pregnancy tests: they don't always have the same amount of dye, so the lines won't always have the same darkness even though you have the same/more hcg in your system. Digital tests use a process that compares the darkness of the line before it registers, and it could take one test longer than another.

I'm sorry that your doctor brushed you off like that.

As for the worries...well...my loss was at the end, so I'm never calm when pregnant.
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July 15th, 2010, 06:19 PM
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ditto to what Brittanie said....
even the regular tests may vary from the same box.
as far as the fears going away, I am not sure that ever does...but things do get easier with each day/week/month that passes.

I am glad you have found us here !
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July 15th, 2010, 06:44 PM
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I found it just slowly got easier. - getting past my loss dates (6 weeks, 11 weeks) seeing a heart beat ( 7 weeks) feeling movement (16 weeks) all clear ultrasound (24 weeks) and then labour! (39 1/2 weeks) then each month!
Even once baby is here - you worry abouT them. But it will get easier

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