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March 22nd, 2011, 05:03 AM
Sillylittlefishey's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Hi my name is Heidi...I have two kids Alexis (11) and Tristan (2) but I did have a miscarriage last November at 8 weeks...the weekend before my first appointment that was scheduled for that following Monday.

I just found out that I'm pregnant again EDD Nov 20th. And deep in my heart I believe that this baby will be fine and is meant to be...it's due the same month I lost the other one and I just feel it's meant to make up for last year or something like that....but not to replace the baby, obviously.

But of course I keep having the fears of a repeat m/c regardless. Every little thing makes me think...oh is this the beginning of the end? And I hate feeling like that. I've been having little cramps...which I do remember having before in pregnancy...it feels more like they're toward the bones of my pelvis...or the bone between my pelvis and legs...the area alternates. And deep down I know it's probably nothing but I can't help but worry.

My Dr's office said that if I go in for two hcg draws 48 hours apart and the numbers go up as they should that they would schedule me an u/s @ 7 weeks. I plan to go in tomorrow and Friday for the bloodwork. But in all honesty it won't give me that much relief because if we had done the HCG draws or had an u/s @ 7 weeks with the baby we lost, it would have looked fine because we didn't start losing it until a few days after 8 weeks and it looked fine at the u/s at the hospital that terrible day except it's heart quit beating.

I don't think I'll feel any relief until after that 1st appointment, if then. But I won't be going in until 9 weeks 4 days...so it's going to be torture waiting...

Anyway..I guess I just needed to put it all out there...I look forward to getting to know you all.


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March 22nd, 2011, 05:26 AM
onedaysoon's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Congrats on the pregnancy!!

I think we were in the same DDC with our losses. I remember you also from the loss board. I'm Charlene, DH is Steven and DD is Danica. We also had a loss in November at 9 weeks.

I know it's hard to relax, and to be honest, even at 13 weeks I'm still scared and anxious alot. I hope everything goes well, and this is your rainbow baby!

Forever missing our angel November 9, 2010, with us for 9 weeks

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March 22nd, 2011, 06:12 AM
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I'm so glad to see you here! and
The time before and around your loss milestone is often very, very hard. It's so normal to have the anxieties you have, even when you know intellectually that they are unfounded. I hope everything in this pregnancy goes wonderfully for you!!!!

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March 22nd, 2011, 06:19 AM
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Congrats and Welcome!!!

I understand your fears. We all have them. Hopefully, once you reach your milestones, you'll feel a bit more secure. Whenever the fear gets the best of you, come to this board. The ladies are awesome!!! Hope you have an easy and wonderful 9 months!!
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March 22nd, 2011, 07:15 AM
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Hi Heidi -

You are due 4 days before me. With my first loss 2 years ago, I was due in November as well. As a matter of fact I am due on the very same day I was back then. I understand how you are feeling. I am trying to keep myself calm but I have moments that don't work out so well.

Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010
CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 22, 21 and 18 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett
Do not ever give up hope...

Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.

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March 22nd, 2011, 08:38 AM
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Congratulations! wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months. There is a lot of fear and anxiety that goes with pregnancy after loss. That is what we are all here for. Support and help . This is a great group of people.

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March 22nd, 2011, 09:52 AM
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March 22nd, 2011, 04:46 PM
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Hi, I am right there with you! I have been having severe anxiety since I found out I was pregnant on Saturday. My miscarriage was right before Christmas. I don't really have any answers for you, I'm still obsessively going to the bathroom every hour and analysing every time I wipe! Every cramp sends me into a panic! I hope everything works out for us and everyone else here
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March 22nd, 2011, 05:35 PM
Sillylittlefishey's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Thank you all for the warm welcome!! I know I'm going to have good days and spaz days..so I figured I better join up I'm planning to go in for my first HCG draw tomorrow...hopefully the hospital will find the order easily...I hate going in without one

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March 22nd, 2011, 05:41 PM
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Congrats and welcome. Being scared is a normal thing with PAL. It isn't necessarily true that betas and an ultrasound would have been normal in your last pregnancy. I had a D&C at 10 weeks, but they knew at 6 weeks that the baby was dead....

Try to be positive. I know it's hard. If you think the betas and the ultrasound will help, them get them. If not, then don't! Whatever works best for you!

I'll be thinking of you, I hope things go splendidly! Fortunately miscarriages are rarer than successful pregnancies!

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