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June 3rd, 2011, 05:55 AM
onedaysoon's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Today marks 24 weeks! I'm a little excited, but for some reason I can't get it out of my head the "what if"...like, what if he's born early? what if something is wrong when he is born? what if he's stillborn? I just can't seem to let it go. Working in a pediatric hospital I see babies born very early and with complications, so I think that makes it worse.

But I should be happy right? 24 weeks is a big milestone I think, I just wish I could feel it.

Forever missing our angel November 9, 2010, with us for 9 weeks

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June 3rd, 2011, 06:11 AM
OurSweetLabs's Avatar I LOVE My Boys!!
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I completely understand. When my doctor talked to be about 24 weeks being viable, I freaked, I am seen all of the problems with 27, 28 and 29 weekers
Donna - Mom to David and Asher

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June 3rd, 2011, 06:33 AM
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I don't we ever feel completely better. There are small worry times and big worry times, especially when you know everything that can go wrong. I hope you are able to relax a bit, but you aren't odd for not being reassured just by hitting the viability mark.

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June 3rd, 2011, 06:35 AM
geogeek's Avatar Marsi's Mommy
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The worry never ends does it? I know I won't relax much until 30 weeks and I have a place to live after we move and a doctor. You are in my thoughts and prayers!

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June 3rd, 2011, 07:19 AM
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I've been worrying more lately too. On Monday, my DDB mentioned that I had hit viability and I was kind of surprised. Now, all I think about is stillborn or my water breaking now, and stuff like that. It was better when I hadn't realized how far along I was, ya know??

I just try to think of something else. Sometimes that helps, sometimes, there is no distracting me. The fact is, it's going to be a bit tougher on you, because you work where you see stuff like that all the time. Good luck!!
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June 3rd, 2011, 07:48 AM
missy123's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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((hugs)) I am sure I will feel the same way at 24 weeks.

Congratulations on that milestone!

Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010
CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 22, 21 and 18 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett
Do not ever give up hope...

Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.

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June 3rd, 2011, 08:43 AM
JessP's Avatar Lovin life and family
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I don't really see that milestone. But that is just me. I might be crazy . I do understand your worry. I worry all the time that she is going to try to come early or something else will be wrong. Then they get here and we worry about sids or kidnapping or well geez the list just keeps going. Either way we are here and understand and share your worry. Sorry its not as good a feeling as you had hoped.

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June 3rd, 2011, 12:56 PM
NutMeg76's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I am looking forward to 24 weeks, because it is my 'loss' milestone. It also means that if the baby did need to come out they would at the very least try to save him/her. So there is a small comfort there. But, I won't really feel safe until I am holding a living breathing baby in my arms.

When they persisted in questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let the person among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her." John 8:7
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June 5th, 2011, 06:13 PM
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I understand your fears completely. I've had losses at 21 weeks and 12 weeks, and have quite a bit of time before i get to those milestones in the first place. However, I know I'll be a wreck until I deliver this time as I've learned from my last two experience, that were completely unrelated, that anything can happen. However, I try to just remind myself that there is a far greater chance of everything working out perfectly than something going wrong - just keep telling yourself that.
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June 5th, 2011, 06:32 PM
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I felt the same way! I felt ok between 14-20 weeks... But otherwise I was nervous until the moment he was born! There was always something for me to worry about and it seemed to consume me. It is hard, but you will get through it!

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June 5th, 2011, 07:20 PM
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Congrats on the milestone! I wish the worry would go away for us all at some point, but unfortunately I don't think it does
Mommy to Alexander, Annabella, & always missing our angel!
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