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September 30th, 2011, 07:39 AM
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our babysitter.
DH was worried that she would accept someone else and she wouldn't be able to take the baby. We talked about it Tuesday night, then I chickened out telling her Wednesday morning when I dropped off CJ. But DH asked he Wednesday when he picked CJ up if I told her anything, but he wouldn't tell her what- said it was something I had to tell her.
Then I didn't see her at all yesterday- I was on dog drop off duty DH dropped off CJ. (He also picks him up because he gets off a lot earlier than me)

So this morning I told her (she had already figured it out), and yes she can keep the baby starting next summer! She's the first person, I told her that we haven't even told out parents yet, We are still keeping it quiet a while longer.

Wonder if this will push us to start telling....

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September 30th, 2011, 07:48 AM
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I have told a person in each category of my life (family member, friend, co-worker) so I have someone to talk to if I want to. I will tell more people after the NT scan, if everything is good.
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September 30th, 2011, 08:33 AM
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It is nerve wrecking to start telling people! It was easier on JM as everyone understands what we go through but IRL I was afraid of the comments, or losing the baby all together.

I am glad she is able to keep this baby as well for you Sam!

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Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.

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September 30th, 2011, 10:47 AM
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I have only told one person in IRL. The only reason why I told a good friend of mine is Dh couldn't go with me to the ultrasound and I didn't want to go by myself. My friend has had losses so I knew she would understnd if anything went wrong. Plus I didn't want to make the 2 hour car ride by myself.
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September 30th, 2011, 12:02 PM
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I am horrible at keeping it secret and pretty much told everybody by 8 weeks. I didn't FB announce until 13 weeks. But, I do understand waiting, I did worry I would have to then tell everyone I had another loss, but here I am! I hope the first tri goes by fast and you feel like you can share your great news!


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September 30th, 2011, 02:34 PM
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I'm like Lindsay and cannot keep a secret. I told everyone at 7 weeks and FB announced it at 8 weeks. LOL

Glad you told someone. It's a big step!!
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September 30th, 2011, 08:45 PM
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Wohoo for telling someone. It is scary. I only told family because I had to tell my co workers by 10 weeks.

Thanks .:Shortcake:. for my great siggie

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September 30th, 2011, 08:59 PM
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It's so scary telling people! Even with this being my second pregnancy I didn't want to tell anyone for awhile. The only people that really knew was our neighbor and dh's cousins because I ran over to their home freaked out as soon as I found out.

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October 1st, 2011, 12:45 AM
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You had to tell. I know it's hard. But, you had to make sure you had care for the baby! And, from my household,we say CONGRATULATIONS and best wishes/prayers for a happy, comfortable, and healthy PG! I am so excited for you!
Kelty---Mom of 4 boys!

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October 1st, 2011, 07:21 AM
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I agree with Missy. It was much easier to tell JM than people IRL. I'm glad that she's able to keep the new baby for you too!

Thank you Jaidynsmum for my beautiful siggy!

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