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October 26th, 2011, 09:38 AM
TheOtherMichelle's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I posted a few weeks ago but my work schedule has been crazy so I haven't had much time to just relax.

I went to my 5 week appointment and the doctor was very reassuring. He scheduled me for an ultrasound next week when I will be 7 weeks so we can check for a heartbeat. I'm still scared but more hopeful. I have been getting very nauseous, although no vomiting yet. I'm giving it another week or two.

We told dd, and I hope it wasn't a mistake. She dealt with the first loss really well but it was still hard on her. We felt like we should tell her though because the other day she was on the couch with me and close to kicking my belly, and with me not feeling well it's easier having her know so she understands why I am sick. She's such a sweetheart and I want her to be a big sister so bad. A day or two ago she told me that she was afraid of hurting the baby and making me sad, and she's also very cautious about how she snuggles up to me. So on one hand I'm glad I told her so I don't have to snap at her because she's jabbing me in the breast or belly (because it hurrrts! lol) but on the other hand I don't want to make her worry.

ETA: how did you deal with your older children?

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October 26th, 2011, 10:25 AM
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Glad your dr. was so reassuring. that helps in preg after loss. Looking foward to seeing your update on your u/s appointment.

We told DS but he is only 2 so i don't he really understands that come next May he will have a brother or sister.

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October 26th, 2011, 10:39 AM
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I haven't told my son yet. I might wait until after my 18 week ultrasound. I haven't decided. At this point, I might as well.
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October 26th, 2011, 07:54 PM
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Glad the dr was reassuring. We told the kids at like 8 weeks. We always tell the kids because I can't pick them up, and need them to be careful. They did well. They know our other two are in heaven and they are ok. I have later losses so it becomes hard to hide. Do what feels right for you.

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October 26th, 2011, 07:56 PM
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As my children are young adults we pretty much told them right away each time. It would be hard to hide it from them.

Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010
CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 22, 21 and 18 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett
Do not ever give up hope...

Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.

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November 1st, 2011, 12:12 AM
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Thanks, it's reassuring to know that we aren't doing irreparable harm to our daughter by telling her (should we have another loss). Or maybe we are, but at least we aren't the only ones.

She IS really excited and it's nice to have her know so when I tell her that the baby is making my stomach upset, she understands for the most part.

Ultrasound in two more days. Very excited and nervous. The good news is, as I'm progressing I've noticed that I am much more nauseous this time around compared the the last pregnancy. I want to say it's even a little more severe than it was with my daughter considering I'm just a couple of days shy of 7 weeks.

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