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November 2nd, 2011, 06:17 PM
kaylakay's Avatar Love Being A Mommy
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UGH! I want to scream to the world I am pregnant.

My family knows, DH family knows and my work knows... But I mean I want to like Facebook public announce HEY IM PREGNANT! Haha.

A couple of my friends recently have and its killing me that I have to hold it back.

Should I have self control and wait 12 weeks or just spill the beans and hope for the best? Haha

Forever missing my 3 angel babies. Sep 2010, Nov 2010, Jan 2011
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November 2nd, 2011, 06:24 PM
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I didn't keep this pregnancy a secret at all, I announced right away after our BFP. With my missed miscarriage (at 14 weeks) I got to experience the support of my family and friends when I was going through it. I honestly can't imagine having gone through that time without all the support I got, even from people on FB who you don't necessarily talk to or see everyday. I would wake up to text or voicemails, postings on my wall or messages in my inbox and it really helped me. It was after that that I decided I wouldn't keep any subsequent pregnancies a secret til out of the "safe" zone because there just is no such thing.

Everyone's situation is different though, and I know and understand why some people do choose to keep it underwraps for a while. I say just follow your heart
Mommy to Alexander, Annabella, & always missing our angel!
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November 2nd, 2011, 06:26 PM
LindseyE117's Avatar Wookie's Girl
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I have not said anything to anybody but close family so far, but my hubby was so excited to see the u/s, he told 2 or 3 guys at work (kind of upset me, but too late now).

I also want to tell people, but I am afraid of jinxing it! Then again, I am just plain crazy, so who knows?! I think I might wait until my next appointment, just to be safe. It is at 10/11 weeks, so hopefully everything will be good then.

Thank you Shortcake for my beautiful siggy!
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November 2nd, 2011, 06:56 PM
Mega Super Mommy
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I'm with Rachel... my loss was at 11 weeks and I was so glad that I had the support and sympathy that I did. It really helped me to heal... I understand not wanting to tell, and some people deal with things better on their own. But you ARE pregnant and you should be celebrating so I think you should do whatever you and DH are comfortable with and convention or "normal" be ******!

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November 3rd, 2011, 07:33 AM
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I waited until it was confirmed not ectopic and once we had a heartbeat I blabbed.
I have a great support system with my FB friends and felt all the extra prayers might be nice.

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November 3rd, 2011, 08:07 AM
StaceygirlPa's Avatar Waiting for our Miracle.
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We are still in the closet on Facebook. We are waiting for our Nt Scan on Wednesday before we say anything. We have started telling Dh's family and some close friends.
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November 3rd, 2011, 08:39 AM
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With my first pregnancy (ended in early loss) we told everyone right away. With Lily, we told a few close family/friends but kept it off facebook for about a week. We realized that telling people or not telling people wasn't going to jinx anything. We were right. I announced it on facebook about a week after finding out and gave DH permission to do the same. I'm glad I did.
Mom to a 2 year old baby girl, 2 week old baby boy, and one in Heaven.

In loving memory of our angel baby, with us for 4 weeks. Baby went to be with God July 24th, 2009.

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November 3rd, 2011, 09:14 AM
JessP's Avatar Lovin life and family
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If you want to share then go for it. I told at 10 weeks. My losses were later so really either way I would have shared the news.

Thanks .:Shortcake:. for my great siggie

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November 3rd, 2011, 11:13 AM
ohnicole's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I am not really big on Facebook, so we never shared there, but we started telling everyone after we saw a heartbeat. I say do what you're comfortable with!
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November 3rd, 2011, 02:11 PM
missy123's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Go with what you feel is best for you! I told the family right away with most of my pregnancies as I felt I needed the support with my losses.

There is no set rule - spill the beans if you want to!!

Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010
CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 22, 21 and 18 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett
Do not ever give up hope...

Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.

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