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To quit or not to quit (and when to tell them)

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December 21st, 2011, 12:37 PM
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I work part time from home. Not very much, maybe 1-2 hours a day or so. I do like the company I work for and my manager always makes sure to let me know how much they appreciate my work.

My son is going to be 5 this spring and we're going to homeschool him for Kindergarten (and then take it one year at a time after that). We plan on doing year-round school (with frequent short breaks rather than one long summer break and short winter/spring breaks). I was originally planning on starting in June.

I'm due mid-July. So I figure that I can start homeschooling in June, take a week or two off when the baby is born and then do some more school. It will likely be tough to do with a newborn, but I figure that if we are falling behind, we can take shorter breaks during the year (one week instead of two) to catch up.

What I'm not sure about is my job. Currently both my children nap in the afternoon and I do work then. Sometimes I do work in the evening after dinner (although I prefer not to). I know that my son won't always be napping (and that I'm lucky that he still naps now). But he's really good at playing quietly by himself.

If I do quit my job, then I can homeschool my son in the afternoon while my daughter naps and the baby will hopefully get into an afternoon nap at some point, too.

If I don't quit my job, then I'd likely continue to do that in the afternoon and try to get the bulk of school done in the morning. My daughter would probably be happy to do easier versions of the lessons along with us (coloring instead of handwriting, counting blocks rather than doing math, etc). But it would be a lot easier to have her be asleep.

Staying with my job would not only provide more money, but also keep my skills recent and my resume fresh. If we decide homeschooling isn't for our family it would make it easy to go back to work once all my kids are in school during the day. If need be, I could probably talk to my manager about cutting my duties so that I could work just a few days a week instead of every day.

So right now I'm not sure if I should quit or not. One part of me thinks that it would be crazy to try to have three children at home, one a newborn, and one being homeschooled while continuing to work. Another part of me doesn't want to give up my job; probably mostly for my own personal satisfaction of having something that I can be recognized for doing well.

If I do plan on quitting, I'm not sure when to tell them. I won't get a paid maternity leave, as I'm only part time. I would have to train people to do my current position, and that would likely take a while since I don't have that many hours available to do it. I would likely have to go into the office a few times to be able to sit with people to show them some of what I do, as that would be easier than doing it over the phone. Going into the office is a pain, because I need a babysitter and a ride.

No clue what to do. I guess I've got some time to decide...
Mama to an elementary school boy, kindergarten girl, and my miracle toddler girl.
Three 10w losses (11/2010 + 8/2011 + 10/2014)
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December 21st, 2011, 04:42 PM
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I only work about 10 hours a week and I know for me it does give me that feeling of helping financially and doing something besides being a mom that I am good at. I think I would feel kind of sad if I didn't do it anymore, but you would definitely have your plate full. I really don't know what i would, just that I would feel a void if I didn;t work at least a little bit. Hope you figure it out and it works well for your family!


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December 21st, 2011, 04:56 PM
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I think its wonderful that you have the option to not work. I on the other hand, I have to and I want to. I spent the last year as a stay home mom, and I loved it, but I do need that time for myself (and conversation with an adult). The last year I worked 1-2hr from home, while he nap, but he didn't always take a nap, so that was hard. It's a hard decision.

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