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May 12th, 2012, 10:51 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
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Currently I am 24 weeks pregnant with my first (or second?) child. I lost my first pregnancy at 9 weeks back in September. And I right now I am scared to buy anything for this baby or even make a baby registry. I know that it is very unlikely at this point, but I am still scared to lose this baby. And if that were to happen, if I had things for him all around the house that would just devastate me even more.

I have another doctor's appointment this Wed and I do plan to register after it. At my 20 week scan, my doctor had not yet looked at the ultra sound pictures. The tech did say that things looked good and when the doctor took the heart rate, she said that it sounded good. I just still worry that she's going to look at the pictures and find a problem that I will be informed of in the next visit.
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May 13th, 2012, 09:22 AM
missy123's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Savannah GA
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I am so sorry for your loss.

It is hard being pregnant after a loss... it changes the way we think forever. The carefree days of dreaming of nursery themes and brands of diapers are replaced with fear and anxiety.

Just before I left for the hospital to have Scarlett I told my husband if something happened that he better throw all of the baby stuff away before I got home. I wish I could have enjoyed the pregnancy more...

What you are going through is "normal" for us. Take it one day at a time, buy one thing and go from there. ((hugs)) We are here for you, we understand.

Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010
CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 22, 21 and 18 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett
Do not ever give up hope...

Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.

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May 13th, 2012, 12:57 PM
luvmykids623's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: New Jersey
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I'm so sorry for your loss. What you're feeling is totally normal. Being pregnant after a loss is so difficult!

Thank you Jaidynsmum for my beautiful siggy!

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May 13th, 2012, 05:43 PM
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I know the feeling. I've only just recently started buying things and getting ready for my baby--and I'm 31 weeks now.

I don't know about where you had your ultrasound, but my doctor told me that if the ultrasound tech saw anything during the scan that she would have called my doctor in to take a look at it right away. That's probably not the case if something were measuring slightly small or large (probably just for something like a spot on the heart, measuring way off, or other things like that).
Mama to an elementary school boy, kindergarten girl, and my miracle toddler girl.
Three 10w losses (11/2010 + 8/2011 + 10/2014)
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May 13th, 2012, 07:17 PM
Jessghetti's Avatar New Mommy in Training
Join Date: Dec 2011
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I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I am too 24 weeks pregnant myself.
During my u/s and I've had about 4 now, they never said anything looked unusual - but I am sure if something did your Dr would say something about it.
Infact sometimes not hearing anything can be a good thing. My Doctor always assured me everything looked healthy and normal - so I don't think you have anything to worry about.

Even so, it's very hard to just let go of fears about loosing the baby.

Missing Angels: Sept '11 - 4 weeks & Nov '11 - 4 weeks 3 days
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