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May 23rd, 2012, 06:51 PM
Jessghetti's Avatar New Mommy in Training
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So maybe a kind of off topic here thing, but have any of you ladies ever felt strange or a bit uncomfortable holding someone else's baby? Especially if it is someone you don't know very well, I was thinking back last year at a Bridal Shower (this was around the time we started TTC) and I hadn't ever met this woman before and they offered to let me hold the newborn.

I couldn't help but feel strange and awkward, like I shouldn't be holding it because I didn't know the mother at all.

Another time around December (and before I knew I was expecting) a kind of distant relative had recently had a baby - she was around 3 months old, she let me hold the baby and it broke my heart because I knew it wasn't mine and I had to give it back. That was also another strange feeling - so do you think this is a normal reaction?

I mean yeah babies can be cute, but I don't always feel comfortable holding just anyone's baby. I know obviously that will be much different when I have my LO. I always hear everything about children is different when you have one of your own and observing other people's children is a different experience.

Also to ladies out there who have had babies, do you tend to get protective if anyone you are not very familiar with holds your baby?

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May 23rd, 2012, 08:02 PM
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I worked in a day care, so I got over that pretty quickly, but I can understand why it would make you feel uncomfortable.

I think I'll be very protective of my little one. It's in my nature to be that way with my stuff, so I can only imagine how much more protective I'll be of my baby. It'll be so hard to let him/her go when it's time!

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May 24th, 2012, 08:22 AM
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I love children and am probably the crazy lady where if I see someone who I can tell needs a hand or someone to hold their little one while they eat at a picnic or anything (even if I don't know them) I offer. I love snuggling babies I know it's not like that for everyone but it is for me. I think that it's each persons own personality. But I don't think it's weird or anything dear!

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May 24th, 2012, 08:31 AM
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I'm with Katie... If someone hands me a baby I love on that baby no matter what! Hahahah. I love babies! They are just so sweet. Now I can usually tell if parents don't want you to go up to their baby very much or things like that so I keep my distance and usually just compliment them on their little one. I think with my own all I'm gonna want to do is love on her! Haha. Im nervous because I'll probably put her in a bad habit like holding her constantly so she only sleeps if help or something. BUT there only little once so embrace it.

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May 24th, 2012, 09:15 AM
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I don't like holding other people's babies and usually refuse. I am not a baby lover, so if it's not my own baby, then I usually keep my distance.
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May 24th, 2012, 11:33 AM
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I used to be weird about holding other people's babies. I've gotten over it, though. Now that I'm obviously pregnant, people seem to be like "Oh, you're expecting? Hold my baby." O_o I got to hold my dad's friend's baby recently because of that attitude and didn't want to let her go - she was so adorable.

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May 24th, 2012, 07:48 PM
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I love holding babies, mine or otherwise. If anyone asks me, I'm all over the opportunity!

As for my own, I used to be really crazy when anyone would hold her. I'd be so protective watching over them and I really didn't want anyone else holding her. I got over that real fast.
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