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August 14th, 2012, 06:08 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Hopefully your RE can find something so you can hold your rainbow baby soon.
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August 14th, 2012, 07:00 AM
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Oh no hun I am so sorry.
Its the hardest thing to have a HB and then next appointment it is gone... I have been there a couple times. I held onto one for 5 weeks after last growth and did cytotec to avoid another D&C since they cost me about $5,000 to have done.

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August 14th, 2012, 08:05 AM
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Lara my heart is breaking for you and your family. It's just so unfair. I hope that it happens on its own and you don't have to have a D & C. Praying that the dr can find some answers and you will soon have your rainbow baby.

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August 14th, 2012, 08:24 AM
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thanks everyone, i really do appreciate all of the support. i'm not any more at peace with this than i was yesterday....really hard to grasp that i'm going to start back at the beginning of this process with all the monitoring, meds, shots again...that all the meds & shots i've taken for the past 2 months are a waste, that i am so bruised i look like i've been in a car accident, and all for nothing.

I was so certain we had figured out *the* treatment plan that would ensure a healthy pregnancy...and now i don't even have that reassurance, my treatment plan was my security and it's completely cast into doubt again too. I am worried that these additional tests are not so much going to give me a new way to treat, but rather are the kinds of tests that if they give you an answer, the answer is to give up, that the chances of me carrying another baby to term are so low that it's pointless to keep trying. Savannah may be my true miracle, my lottery win, and perhaps i'm just so broken that the success can't be duplicated before my biological clock stops because of whatever additional issues i have...or there's nothing additional wrong and i'm just the unluckiest person, i'm not even sure if it matters which it is.

Lori - if i have the D&C, i will definitely ask them to test the baby. I don't know if that's possible if i do this naturally. I really want to know - it would weirdly make me feel better to know baby had a chromosomal issue and it's just an age/bad luck issue and not my body failing me - but i also really want to avoid a D&C. I had one with my first loss...and i know multiple D&Cs run risk of scarring (like i need more issues) and my recovery time (from a cycle perspective) was 50% shorter with the natural loss than with the D&C...and time is running short for me so I don't want to be out for months.

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August 14th, 2012, 09:21 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you giant hugs.

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August 14th, 2012, 09:29 AM
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I'm so sorry, Lara. I thought this was it for you.

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August 14th, 2012, 01:22 PM
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Lara you might check with your dr about collecting what you pass yourself. I know some drs will do that and then test the baby for chromosomal issues. That way if you don't have the D & C you can still have the baby checked out. Not sure if that is something you would want to try to do or not.

I had a D & C and we tested the baby and found out baby had chromosal issues which made the loss a little bit easier.

I hope you can find a cause and an answer soon. Again I'm so sorry for what you are going through. My heart breaks for you.

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August 14th, 2012, 08:10 PM
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I'm so so sorry Lara!!!

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August 14th, 2012, 09:03 PM
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Lara, from what my high risk ob and RE told me, when a baby's h/b stops between 9 and 10wks, its most likely chromosonal (usually downs). I did have a d&c with a 9wk loss after seeing a h/b and the baby "normal". However, she always measured a week behind and the sac was small. Not sure how much stock I put in that, but over the years I have lossed at 14wks, 9wks, 5wks, 4wks, and have had healthy baby's in between them. Sometimes we just have to keep going until that perfect egg is released. As heartbreaking as it is. Praying for you.
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August 15th, 2012, 06:56 PM
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Lara, I'm so sorry
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August 16th, 2012, 12:31 PM
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I am so very sorry.
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