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October 28th, 2012, 04:26 PM
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Hello, my husband and I tried for a baby for almost 5 years. Finally, after IVF, we got pregnant with twins! Everything was going PERFECT up until 23 weeks. At 23 weeks, I began having contractions every 5 minutes. Over the next week and 2 days, I continued to contract every 5 minutes, and then every 2 minutes all day long. However, my cervix was never dilated. It did shorten from a 3.8 down to a 1.6, and began to funnel. I begged the doctors to put an emergency cerclage in, but they refused and said they don't do cerclages after 24 weeks, and I was too close to that 24 week mark. I begged for medication, and they refused to give me meds for the contractions, saying that since my cervix was not dilating, there was no need for me to be on meds. They told me to have strict bedrest. My second day on bedrest, I went into active labor. The contractions were extremely painful, so my husband drove me to Labor and Delivery, and I was already 10 cm dilated. I gave birth to my twins. They lived for 2 days... We are heartbroken! This happened 2.5 weeks ago... We want to try again. However, I am SCARED TO DEATH that something like this will happen again! We are going to wait a couple of months before going back to the IVF clinic to try again. Has anybody had this happen? I guess I'm looking for some success stories of people who have suffered a loss, but have successfully been able to carry a baby full term afterwards. And if you did carry full term, what precautions were taken??? What did they do for you to prevent preterm labor again??? Thank you!!!
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October 29th, 2012, 07:13 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. My situation was much different that yours so I don't think I will be that much help. I had a loss at 11 weeks 1 day. I went in for an u/s and they found that the baby's heart had stopped beating. This was June 2011. I had a D & C and began trying to get pregnant as soon as my cycle returned. In August 2011 we got pregnant and had our rainbow baby on April 2012.

If I was you I would definitely talk to your dr about putting in a cerclage next time. And I can't figure out why they wouldn't give you some medicine to stop the contractions. My dr will not stop the contractions after 36 weeks but will try to do so before. You might even consider looking for another dr.

Again I'm so sorry for what you have been through. I hope when you do try again, you get pregnant quickly with your rainbow baby.

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October 29th, 2012, 07:30 AM
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Sorry for your losses. I would talk to your OB about how they are going to treat you differently next time. He/she should be able to give you guidance but I would imagine a single is different than twins. Never carried either set of my twins beyond 8w so I don't know.
Katrina, mom to 7 wonderful children on earth, and 4 guardian angels in heaven.

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October 29th, 2012, 11:19 AM
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I am very sorry for the loss of your twins and I wish you the best of luck when you do IVF again!
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November 2nd, 2012, 01:54 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss! I have had 2 losses, different from yours, one at 8 weeks and one at 12, but both times I have gone on to have successful pregnancies after each. I have a friend who had a similar situation however, she lost her baby girl at about 24 weeks, she went on to have a very healthy baby boy about a year after that loss. I do not know of any additional precautions. Do they know why that happened? A lot of times it is purely bad luck, which sounds terrible, but also means that you won't have to go through that again, unless there is some reason that they found that caused it. If that is the case, they should be able to take additional precautions for you, a cerclage, meds to keep early labor from progressing, in hospital bedrest, additional monitoring.

I also do not understand why they wouldn't stop labor, I have a doctor that would do so up until 36 weeks as well. I also suggest possibly talking to your doctor about it and even finding a new one.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss!! I wish you the best of luck!
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November 2nd, 2012, 08:57 PM
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I've had two stillbirths and one premature birth, but my circumstances were quite different. That being said, I do know two women that had PROM and went on to have healthy babies that went to term. In one case, the woman had a cerclage, but the other didn't. I think I would look for a different OB because they should have done more to ensure that you did not go into/stop labour. You can discuss your options with your new OB, but there are success stories after losses like yours. Don't give up hope!

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