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July 29th, 2006, 06:57 PM
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Location: Louisville, KY
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Hey everyone-

I have been having some nightmares lately...mostly of losing this baby....I find myself not wanting to get really attached to it just quite yet. Anyone else experiencing anything like this? For those of you that are further along with your pregnancies, when did you start to "bond" with your baby. I just feel bad that I am not enjoying htis pregnancy as much as my last one, but it is so hard to get motivated to read books, look at baby things, etc.


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July 29th, 2006, 09:07 PM
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yup I had nightmares quite a bit in the beginning. They seem to have gone away but as for the bonding, I'm having this baby within the next 5 days and I still have some bonding issues. I won't call her by her name yet, I'm still too afraid that will jinx it. I know I'll bond instantly when she is born, I'm just still worried something will happen in the next few days...

Wish I could be more positive for you... I hope you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy more than I was able to.
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July 30th, 2006, 10:16 AM
Prudence's Avatar Super Mommy
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I always have nightmares so I don't think it is a pregnancy thing.
As far as bonding.. My first 2 not until the u/s when I saw them, and when I could feel them moving.
This one I was attached right away, until I passed my 23 weeks, which marked the last pregnancy.
Names, at first I would call her Gillian, then after awhile I found myself calling her Amara. Which is the name I gave the baby I lost.
Now I can't wait to have my little girl, 10 weeks seems so far away, but I stopped calling her anything.
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July 30th, 2006, 04:43 PM
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That is so great that you guys are so far along! I bet you are ready to see your babies. I wish I didn't feel this way, but it is like I don't have the energy to think about it...Isn't that bad to say??? I just hope the next few weeks go by quickly...Maybe it will be better once I know what the gender is.



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July 30th, 2006, 05:58 PM
Just_Marie's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I had two nightmares and DH admitted he had about six-all about us losing this baby. We had a lot of trouble bonding-I always assumed the baby was dead until I saw it or heard the HB-that was how I prepared myself for a potential loss. At 13 wks we had some spotting and I had an ultrasound, and then we were finally able to relax and start being more hopeful. We didn't completely relax until 24 weeks when we knew the baby had a chance to be viable-so we set up the crib and started buying more clothes and planning for a future with a live baby. Its so different for everyone, just try to relax and trust that you'll know when it feels right.

Lucky mother to five!

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July 30th, 2006, 06:18 PM
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I think I bonded when the fear had decreased mostly- maybe after my big u/s? I cant remember when I considered myself attached, but I do know that when most of the fear departs,(and I say "most" because there is always fear I think!) its easier.
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