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October 31st, 2013, 06:43 AM
lelila's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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We finally told our families. It was kind of hard to keep it a secret - my inlaws figured it out a few weeks ago. DH's 4 siblings started looking at my belly, even with clothes to hide it, and asking questions (they are the nosiest, gossipiest bunch of people) and I felt bad that DH's entire family knew and not a single person in my family and none of my friends knew. So I told my parents two weeks ago and my siblings this week. Not a warm reception. My parents were stunned and concerned for both my health and that of the baby's and my brother who has been trying for 2 years (he and his wife are both in their mid-40s) were outright angry. My oldest brother, who I am closest to, has been calling every few days to see how I am, but didn't express any kind of joy or happiness.

I told my Aunt, who is like a second mother and she was very happy as were my friends. I guess I will have to talk to them instead of my family about it.

It does feel good to not have to pretend it's not happening.
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October 31st, 2013, 07:07 AM
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I'm glad that you finally told them. I'm sorry that your brother wasn't happy. I'm sure him and his wife are just jealous. Everything is going great in your pregnancy so there is no reason for them to be concerned for your health or the health of your unborn child.

Glad that you don't have to pretend anymore. it does get hard hiding that baby belly.
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October 31st, 2013, 07:14 AM
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It's nice to be out there isn't it? No more hiding. Sorry the reception wasn't better from most of the family. Hopefully they'll all come around to accepting your little special one. Congrats, and hugs.
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October 31st, 2013, 07:33 AM
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I'm glad you don't have to hide anymore, though I'm sorry you didn't get the reception you deserve from all sides.
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October 31st, 2013, 11:27 AM
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Grrrr, that's messed up!! I'm sorry but when someone announces they're pregnant I think it's so rude and nasty not to show anything but joy and happiness for them! I can understand certain family members being worried for you or baby's health... I get that, I truly do, but keep it to yourself!! I can also understand certain family members being jealous (I've been that person) but again, you keep those feelings to yourself!! I'm sorry Some people just suck...

We are all very happy for you and at least you got all that out of the way and can focus on you and baby and not have to worry about what all those other butt-heads think about it. ((hugs))
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October 31st, 2013, 05:52 PM
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I'm sorry your family wasn't as happy as you'd like. Hope they warm up soon. Yay for not having to hid it any more though!!
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