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June 13th, 2014, 07:50 AM
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My beautiful baby is 3 weeks old today! She's doing well, for the most part. Last night, for the first time in like 10 days, she was up for hours at night screaming while feeding. It's so frustrating, since I don't know how to help her. She hasn't done this since we started block feeding- nursing off just one breast for several hours. (we started that because she would get so sleepy after nursing just a few minutes. If i switched breasts for the next feeding, within an hour or two, she'd be getting only foremilk and not enough filling hindmilk, and it would make her gassy and fussy). I thought it was going really well, until last night. I hope maybe it's just a random bad night.

Yesterday I took her out for the first time by myself, to go to my OB. I had a follow up to check on my c-section incision. It was actually pretty overwhelming- my physical recovery has been pretty rough. I hadn't driven my car in a month, hadn't lifted her in her car seat by myself (let alone with carrying diaper bags and stuff). I cried the whole way to the doctor But it ended up being a good appointment, and i feel a lot more confident. I also got myself a milkshake, which was great.

Other good thing- we stopped in the mother-baby unit to say hi, and one of the nurses, the lactation consultant, said if we had any questions she was there to help. I didn't put 2 and 2 together at the time, but after I got home, I decided to call and see if I could talk about all this block feeding, whether I should be pumping, etc. I called just after the nurse had left, but I'm going to call again today and see if I can talk or even get an appointment. There is just so, so much conflicting info on the internet on breastfeeding, I just want someone to tell me exactly what to do. It's the same as TTCAL/PAL- try this test, that method, etc.

Whew, didn't mean for this to become so venty. As always, one foot in front of the next.
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June 13th, 2014, 08:04 AM
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She is so adorable! I hope last night was a total fluke. They do go through stages here and there, so maybe last night was just a bad one.

I hope the LC can help you, they really can be helpful at times
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June 13th, 2014, 08:38 AM
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She is so cute. I can't believe that she' 3 weeks old. I hope last night was just a fluke and tonight will be better.

I had the same problem with my first child, he wouldn't stay awake long enough to eat. I never block fed though. I would get a really cold wash cloth and put it on him and wake him back up and get him eating again. I hope the LC can give you some suggestions.

I remember my first time out alone with mine. It is hard. Glad you did ok.
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June 13th, 2014, 12:00 PM
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She's so pretty!
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June 13th, 2014, 01:50 PM
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Aw precious little lady!
I'm sorry it's been a bit rough lately. I recall being scared to go out alone with my first when he was a newborn. It's hard, figuring out how to navigate everything with all the baby stuff. I've never had a C-section, so I can imagine that made it a lot harder. How is your incision site healing? Did you get two thumbs up from your OB?
I think it seems like just about everyone has times with their babies when they're really small, where they just cry and cry and Mom can't seem to do anything about it. I know I've seen a few posts like that in here fairly recently. Gosh, my whole first year with my firstborn was like that. At least, that's how it seems looking back on it. It's hard, and there's no good answer for that one, other than try to remember you're a good mom even if your baby isn't content and happy all the time, and so long as baby is fed, changed, warm, and comfortable, sometimes they just cry for no apparent reason. I have heard sometimes they get overstimulated, and their little brain just can't process everything, and so they cry to sort of let off steam, so to speak. Like when we have a rough day and have a mini-meltdown. I know I had lots of those in the early days with my first. It makes you feel so helpless! But you can get through it, just keep swimming, just keep swimming!
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June 13th, 2014, 06:08 PM
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Oh Mel congrats on her, she's so cute. And wow, I've had a c/s and I never would have braved going out with baby to the doctor on my own, so kudos to you. And that's awesome you got a treat for yourself, though now I kind of want a milk shake also! The hospital may even offer a BF support group you can go to where there are LC on hand to help out and of course other moms. I went to a couple when we were trying with Truely. And not to scare you, but 3 weeks is when T started having reflux issues (though we thought it was just gas because her reflux is the silent kind), so keep an eye out for that. But hopefully it was a fluke and she'll be just fine.
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June 15th, 2014, 04:14 PM
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Thank you all. Joy, I keep thinking about your words, that aslong as my baby is safe, fed, changed and comfortable, I'm doing all I can do. I think that is the best parenting advice for newborns that I've heard

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June 15th, 2014, 05:35 PM
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Shes soo beautiful! And looks really long! I like the cold wash cloth idea, never heard of that, but sounds like it would really work! C/S recovery is the worst, great job on taking her out so early! No advise mama, its all trial and error, makes the best moms ever!
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