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Was/is your DH or BF worried about your pg after loss?

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September 7th, 2006, 05:55 PM
margo1973's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Most of us here have feeling of worry and anxiety about our pregnancies because of previous experiences. I was wondering how you Dh or BF feels about your pregnancy. Is he worried? Confident?

My DH has been much more involved with this pregnancy then my first even at the very beginning when I was a wreck and he seems quite confident that things will turn out OK this time (although I suppose he could be pretending for my sake).

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September 7th, 2006, 07:18 PM
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DH was very worried before we got p/g this time. However, he hasn't really said much about being worried (except that it isn't good for me) since we found out I was p/g.

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September 7th, 2006, 09:02 PM
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DH has been fairly reserved, not wanting to get his hopes up (or mine) until the doc gave the OK. Now that we've seen the h/b twice and I'm no longer high risk, he's loosening up just a little. I think he'll be more comfortable once we reach the 2nd trimester.
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September 7th, 2006, 10:20 PM
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Hubby has been very worried about me this time around banning me from doing certain things and forever asking me how I am. He is a wonderful man very caring.

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September 8th, 2006, 06:22 AM
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My DH has been more confident than I wish I could be!!! He has been positive really since we got out of the first trimester - its like he just feels like nothing can go wrong. The days where I get worried I don't always tell him because I hate to worry him too.

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September 8th, 2006, 07:17 AM
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My hubby was very reserved this time, but has come around in the past few weeks and has told everyone that I'm pregnant. I think that the reason he was reserved is his first wife ended up have about five m/c after having there dd.
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September 8th, 2006, 12:01 PM
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My Dh refused to really even talk about it until I got the results back from the 18 week u/s...Our loss really hit both of us quite hard and neither of us wanted to make plans, buy things. Once we got the results, both of us started to get excited...

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September 9th, 2006, 11:04 AM
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My dh is just kidda blah about it right now. He knows its best for me to stay stress free and he does do his best to help me with that. I don't think the reality of it has set it just yet. I have been going to my doctor appointments and he always ask how they go and wants to know when they will be doing an ultrasound cause he wants to see. I wouldn't say he's worried, but rather just doesn't want to see me cry or be hurt like i was before.
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September 10th, 2006, 02:19 AM
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Stu never verbally expressed any anxiety or worry about this pregnancy... but he didn't start really seeming interested until after my first scan (he wasn't there for it) - so i'm thinking he was anxious, but didn't say anything

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September 10th, 2006, 02:54 PM
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Ben does not understand so much. I've tried to talk to him about all my fears and such, but it's kind of lost on him. He is very respectful - even if he does not understand. I've told him when I deliver, I don't want other people there, just us, reason being that I've gone so long with empty arms, I'm not going to want to pass her off right away for someone else to hold. He is 100% okay with that, and said I can have as long as I need to hold her before we call others. I told him I'd still let him hold her a bit
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September 11th, 2006, 08:13 PM
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My DH was in denial for about a week, which really bothered me at the time, although I could understand. He got very attached to pg#2, which ended in mc, and he didn't want to do that again. Eventually, though, when the pg symptoms kicked in full blast, he came around and has been very supportive. Our losses have been hard on both of us, so we're just taking it one day at a time with this one.

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