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September 24th, 2006, 10:45 AM
Loving My Piglets
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: England, UK
Posts: 34,596
Hi All

I am pregnant again after losing my daughter to Turners Syndrome in April. It don't seem real yet, and i think im going to freak out at every single thing until i pass 15 weeks {how many i was when i lost my daughter} does anyone have any things they did to keep there mind off the negative?
..together for 12 years..

R (10) 24.04.06 - our little angel
R (9) 07.06.07
L (8) 05.06.08
L (6) 26.04.10
C (3) 15.02.13

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September 24th, 2006, 04:14 PM
Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jul 2006
Posts: 18,997
welcome and congrats on your pregnancy

sorry about your recent lose ( not sure what Turners is but it does not sound good )

I had 3 miscarriages last year and I worried everyday untill about my 14th week, I still worry ever day but not as bad. The ladies on JM has really helped me out a lot ( you dont realize how many people went through the same thing untill you read about. )

Help all goes well

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September 24th, 2006, 04:30 PM
Kiwi*Mummie*of*4's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: New Zealand
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Congrats on your BFP.

I am sorry about your loss of your daughter. I have had two misscarriages. Both at 7 weeks pregnant. I was so pleased to get over the 7 week mark but I still worry that something will go wrong. I probably will until baby is born. I wish you all the best with this pregnancy.

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September 24th, 2006, 08:01 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Michigan
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Sarah - Welcome & congrats on your pg. I know it is incredibly scary after having a loss to be pg again - but try to hang in there. I think it does get easier. I am not excited by any stretch - but I am not terrified anymore either. Most of the time I am in denial - or not thinking of it at all. It's getting harder & harder to do though as I am starting to pooch out - but I still manage to not think of it all the time. That's all I can tell you I do - keep my mind on other stuff as much as possible...even if it's just loosing myself in a book or movie for a while - it helps me. I think it has also been a bit easier for me to be distracted as my teenage niece has been staying with us following a pretty major surgery for cancer...so it helps keep my mind on other things...not that it's good - but it does keep me pre-occupied & has made the last few weeks fly by it seems. I wish you all the best & hope you find some way of getting through the days with some relaxation. Believe me - worry changes nothing....and all it does is rob of us enjoying some part of this pg. I do try to enjoy what I can - even if it's jsut a few minutes a day. I hope you find a way to do that too!

Best wishes hun!
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September 25th, 2006, 02:07 AM
Loving My Piglets
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: England, UK
Posts: 34,596
Thank you for all the replies, your right, i should try and enjoy this pregnancy as much as possible and not let any worries stop me from doing that.

Its nice to see that you are all pregnant after a loss and doing so well, i dont know many of you but i hope to get to know you

and beck12 it was such a suprise to come on here and see you pregnant, i havent been on here for a while [was trying to avoid until pregnant] and it really made my day coming on here and seeing you with a pregnancy ticker after so many losses, i wish you all the best xx
..together for 12 years..

R (10) 24.04.06 - our little angel
R (9) 07.06.07
L (8) 05.06.08
L (6) 26.04.10
C (3) 15.02.13

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September 25th, 2006, 05:01 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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Congrats!! on your BFP and welcome to the board.

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September 25th, 2006, 09:11 AM
4iris's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: May 2006
Location: Midwest
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Congrats and welcome! I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter. I've had two losses this year, one in April like you, just not as far along.

Besides what the others have suggested, I say a lot of prayers. Not just for me, in fact very few for me, but for my JM friends. That helps relieve the worry quite a bit for me.
Do not sorrow; the joy of the Lord is your strength." Neh. 8:10
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September 25th, 2006, 10:17 AM
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Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Los Angeles, CA
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Hi and welcome to the Board! I am so sorry for your losses. I've had two losses this year - both very early, but sad nonetheless. For me it has helped getting past my loss dates, but other than that, I try really hard to take it one day at a time and pray a lot. (Oh, and I rented a doppler - that's been very reassuring as well!)
Our C-section is scheduled for Feb 16th! Then we'll know whether Baby Bennett is a BOY or a GIRL!!!
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September 26th, 2006, 05:06 PM
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Congradulations.....I'm new too. Hope we have a healthy 9 months together.
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