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October 14th, 2006, 08:24 PM
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that I'm happy with this pregnancy after just losing one. Is this normal? And will I ever let it go?
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October 14th, 2006, 09:34 PM
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I too got pg just after a m/c and have had mixed feelings. Sometimes I feel like I am doing wrong by the baby I lost by being happy. other times I know I needed this pregnancy to get me through that loss. My sister who suffered multiple miscarriages told me it gets easier but you always feel your loss as well as any guilt or questions in relation to it.
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October 15th, 2006, 03:33 PM
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Sometimes I feel like I am doing wrong by the baby I lost by being happy.[/b]
But what about the baby you're pregnant with. Wouldn't you be doing that baby wrong by NOT being happy?

You'll always miss your angel. And your angel knows that. And I KNOW your angel wants you to be happy.

I'm happy about this pregnancy. I think Cora is too. I think she knows that her brother or sister wouldn't be born right now if she were here, and I think she accepts that.

Let yourself be happy sweetie.
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October 16th, 2006, 02:48 PM
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I think you should feel happy. You have nothing to be guilty about.

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October 16th, 2006, 03:51 PM
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I felt the same way, at first I felt like I was being an awful Mom for getting so happy to be pg again, I got pg soon after my m/c too.

I realized (from the ladies at PG loss board) that my baby we lost is up in heaven looking down on us and is excited for us and is our new babies guardian angel already!!

So, I know exactly how you feel. But I did also feel at one time, that if I was happy then it was like I was "forgetting" my first....but I never will. I think everyone who has lost one feels the same way. It is normal!!

HUGS to you!!
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October 17th, 2006, 06:12 AM
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You have no reason to feel guilty at all - you deserve to be happy about this pregnancy and that doesn't mean you forget the baby you lost.

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