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November 20th, 2006, 01:01 PM
Mega Super Mommy
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went to dr this morning. after the research i've done i've found there isn't any scientific research that says you must wait to ttc again. yet i see everything from waiting 1 cycle to 6 cycles. my doctor said at least 2 cycles but after this morning I have no faith in him. I told him about the first m/c but since i didn't have to come in to see him apparently it doesn't count. Now with the third he's chalking it up to "bad luck." I am wrong to think he should be interested in finding some reason this keeps happening? So, I'll be finding a new dr and my question is how long before you all ttc again? Please help. I know I should prob. wait one cycle but that's pushing it!

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November 20th, 2006, 02:18 PM
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It depends on the type of m/c you have... if you m/c naturally or if you have a D&C. They say you need to wait longer after a D&C to let the lining build back up.

Our Dr. told us 1 cycle after our first m/c and 2 after our second m/c. We listened both times.

Are you going to have some testing done?
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November 20th, 2006, 02:28 PM
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I'm sorry for your losses. We miscarried last October, I went back on Clomid in November, and we found out we were pregnant at the end of January. I did not need a D&C, and our obgyn said we could start trying right away which would have been four weeks after my m/c. Hope a healthy little pg comes your way soon-and I'm also wondering if they're looking at doing any testing for you.

Lucky mother to five!

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November 20th, 2006, 02:39 PM
Mega Super Mommy
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He's not doing any!?! He said it was "Bad Luck." What a crock, huh?

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November 20th, 2006, 02:47 PM
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I went through L&D with my loss and my DR said we could start right away, no waiting required. We did wait 1 month because that first month since I had 3 or 4 weeks of post partum bleeding and was unsure of when I O'ed. We tried the next month and it didn't happen - I had a chemical pregnancy - then the next month we got pregnant so it was 3 months after my loss. The biggest down side for me of waiting 3 months is that will put you giving birth the same month that you lost your baby which is what happened with me. It is hard to celebrate a birth and a loss aniversary at the same time.
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November 20th, 2006, 02:51 PM
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First, I am so sorry for your losses, and I think you should find a new doctor. Has your doctor done any testing on any of your sweet babies?? My doctor wouldn't do tests on the first but if there is a 2nd they then start doing testing to see what is going on.

I had a missed m/c the end of June, which required a D&C and was told to wait 3 full cycles. But, I hadn't ovulated on my own with out the help of clomid for 14 months prior to the m/c so we weren't careful at all. On the 2nd cycle we found out we were pg again.

We didn't wait the full 3 cycles like they had said to do, (because we thought we would need meds again) and all seems to be going great this time around! I personally think waiting the 2-3 cycles is mostly heal emotionally!

You are in my prayers!!
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November 20th, 2006, 03:01 PM
Mega Super Mommy
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I believe your Dr. should care more so I am glad you are going to find a new one. I had to wait 3 cycles because I had a dc and full labor and 2 blood transfusions. Find another Dr. See if there is a high risk or a specialist in your area to try and give you some more info.

I am so sorry for your losses and I sure hope you get a more caring Dr. and get pg real soon.
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November 20th, 2006, 06:23 PM
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I think the waiting period differs, according to the doctor you see, the country you live in, and the history of your losses (such as what age of gestation the m/c occurred).....

My midwife told me that she *personally* doesn't see a physical reason to wait, if you experience an early loss (she said up to 8 weeks is her guideline), but she tells her clients to wait 2+ cycles because of the mental & emotional impact that a miscarriage CAN have on a woman/couple....

After my m/c (5w4d) in November last year, we were going to wait, but I had had a complete m/c, and felt fine afteward (physically), so we decided to start TTC straight away.... our 3rd cycle post m/c I was lucky enough to get pregnant with Gaby....

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November 29th, 2006, 01:46 PM
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Since my loss was in the first trimester and I had a natural m/c, the doctor told me to start trying whenever I was ready. I ovulated about 8 weeks later ( I spot when I ovulate so it has always been easy to use the rhythm method for birthcontrol as well as using it to get pregnant) and I got pregnant at that ovulation, now I'm 24 weeks with a healthy pregnancy.
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