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February 21st, 2007, 04:56 PM
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That I would be 32 weeks pregnant It upset me for a while-but then I realized that I love this baby with everything that I have and I wouldn't give up this baby for the one I lost. I was meant to have this baby. Sorry, just a tad emotional today.
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February 21st, 2007, 05:05 PM
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aw sweety.... I understand how upsetting this can be.

I was due with the baby i miscarried, on July 18, 2006 - and at that stage, I was 27w5d pregnant with Gaby. It was a hard day for me, knowing that I could have been having a baby, had I not miscarried, BUT then I also knew that it'd mean that I wouldn't have Gaby...

it can be a very emotionally confusing time...

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February 21st, 2007, 06:15 PM
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Aww hun I am sorry. I would have already had my baby right after Xmas. I had a hard time around that time. Lots of hugs to you!
Wife to Brian since October 2004, Mama too:
Jakob (May 12th 2004- Feb. 24th 2009 Had Joubert Syndrome RIP)
2 Baby beans lost
Ava Sept 14th 2007, Beaux Oct 3rd 2012
* Tubal reversal December 17th 2010

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February 21st, 2007, 06:46 PM
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Oh, I can completely understand - I'm sure we are all still greiving and I think that is OK. My original DD (March 16, is coming up fast) and I know that will be difficult too. I still look in the March DDC frequently - to check in on those ladies and also to see "what might have been". I don't know why I do that to myself, but I do. It's something that will always be a part of us - our angels.


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February 22nd, 2007, 06:10 AM
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(((HUGS))) I am sorry that you are having a rough day hun. I would have had Baby K in the begining of Dec and as much as I love being pregnant with Babykins right now I can't help and wonder what it would have been like caring for a 2 month old.

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February 22nd, 2007, 10:44 AM
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I totally know what you mean.. I was reading posts in the June DDC thinking the same thing.. I should be over half way through pregnancy, and already know what I'm having. But instead that baby is in heaven watching over me and the one I'm carrying now. And that's just the way I have to think about it.
Mom to Angel (17), Alana (9), Hayden (1)
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February 22nd, 2007, 12:27 PM
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I can see how hard that would be--emotionally trying. It was 2 1/2 years after I miscarried before I got pregnant again and my son was born 4 days before the 3rd anniversary of losing the baby. It was hard thinking I should have had a toddler along with my newborn. It's been even harder with this pregnancy, the due dates between this baby and the one we lost is a matter of days. It's hard being at the same exact point at the exact same time. It's hard not to dwell in what should have been.
Our angel baby forever missed--1/3/03

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February 22nd, 2007, 05:34 PM
Mom2LinaNangels's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I totally think that every day of my life. I should be 19 weeks and I am only 6. I want this baby now, but I want it to go faster. I am gonna lose my mind.

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February 24th, 2007, 08:25 PM
Brittanie's Avatar just me
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Cora would be 10months next Friday. Honestly, if she had lived, we wouldn't have been TTC at ALL and I likely wouldn't be pregnant now. I look at my u/s and I feel like I'm having deja vu.

How would I explain to a 10-month-old why mommy is so sick? Would she even understand?

Ugh. Anyway, I understand.
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February 26th, 2007, 01:18 PM
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I think what you're feeling is completely normal. Next week was my EDD for my last angel. It's hard to think I should have had an 8 month baby right now if I hadn't had my 1st loss. Then I think I should have had a 2 month old baby if I hadn't had my 2nd loss.

I'm just so grateful that I'm pg again and getting ready for this baby. This little one is so special because so many people have been praying for him/her, and peanut has 3 angels looking out for him/her.
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For the special little one in your life!
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