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June 4th, 2007, 08:15 AM
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I think this probably the best place for me to post this. I'm in the Jan DDC and they are wonderful women there, but other then the few who have had previously losses, I just don't think they can relate.

I'm 1 day shy of being 6 weeks right now and things had been going really well until yesterday. About 4:00pm I got a backache, which I didn't think much of, but within an hour it was like really bad cramping in my lower right back. It stayed that way for about 2 hours, then got a little better. I took a nap and it seemed to improve. I woke up long enough to say goodnight to DH and went to bed. I woke up in the middle of the night, as usual, to pee and things were feeling not too bad. So, I was thinking tragedy averted.

Well this morning, I woke up and the pain wasn't nearly as bad, but I had a bit of brown discharge when I wiped. Just once and then it went away. I decided to go to work and on my way in I could feel the back cramps coming back, mostly on the right side but also on the left now. I even feel some cramping in the front now too, although mild.

I've had cramping for 2 weeks now, but nothing major at all and nothing that has worried me. This is different and feeling an awful lot like my 2 losses. I'm scared out of my mind, to be honest.

I have a call into my doctor, just waiting on a call back.

I need some honest feedback here, no sugar coating. This back pain is trouble, isn't it?
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June 4th, 2007, 08:57 AM
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Honestly? I had back pain early on with both my pregnancies. The way you described it, could it be kidney pain? Keep yourself really hydrated, and try not to freak out too much. I had bad cramps and brown discharge with both my pregnancies too.


So, I'm wishing you sticky dust and thoughts and prayers that everything is okay!!


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June 4th, 2007, 09:27 AM
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Cramping and brown discharge MAY mean something....but NOT ALWAYS!!!

With my m/c in October 2006, I had brown discharge and no cramping until the bright red bleeding/clotting started. With this baby I had brown discharge and cramping/back pain for a period of about 2-3 weeks. In addtion I had one day of bright red bleeding (no significant clots) and I am now 20 w 4 d!

I really thought when I started the discharge and cramping with this one that it was the end of my pg dreams. It started EXACTLY the same way as my previous m/c. But alas it turned out completely different!

Although it is hard to believe when you are going through it, I have read about 50% of pg have some sort of bleeding/spotting at some point!!

I hope this pg turns out well and that the discharge and cramping are just a "normal" part of pg!!! I did have significant (PMS type cramping...sometimes more painful than PMS) with each of my 5 pg. So cramping is DEFINITELY normal for a lot of women!! Keep us posted and I hope you have a supportive doc because that can really make all the difference, especially with all you have been through!!

Keep your head up and many ! We're here for you!
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June 4th, 2007, 10:43 AM
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I am not sure if it means anything or not. The 1st tri is so hard waiting to see that sweet hb. I hope you get to see it really soon!!
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June 4th, 2007, 10:49 AM
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Thanks girls for your kind thoughts and for sharing your experiences... it does help to find a little comfort.

I'm still waiting on my doctor to call back - taking a bit longer than usual. I'm an IVF'er and still under the care of my RE so all my calls go into the IVF clinic to be answered by one of the nursing team. I left the message 4 hours ago and they're usually not this slow. I know there really isn't much they can do anyway, but it would still be nice to call back.

I think, if this cramping keeps up today (so far it's still there but not as severe), that I'll call the after hours on call doctor when the clinic closes down. That gets me straight to a doctor and bypasses the nurses. My past experience has been that the doctors are much more accomodating then the nurses and I'm thinking they may even bring me in earlier for an u/s (I'm not scheduled until June 18th). That may be slightly manipulative of the system, but hey, better that then sitting here freaking out over not knowing what's going on.
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June 4th, 2007, 12:24 PM
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It's so hard to tell early on, and with our histories its so obvious to think the worse..just remember that everything your having is also pregnancy symptoms..not just miscarriage ones.

Have them test your urine for a UTI, yeast infection, kidney infection etc. I spotted for 2 days and had back pains early on..it was all due to a yeast infection. I wish the best for you gillian, try to stay positive sweety
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June 4th, 2007, 12:55 PM
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I had no lower back pain with my m/c, but I did have bleeding or spotting. Actually, I had brown spotting with all three of my pregnancies early on... I was scared all three times, but it was fine, except once. That one time, the spotting got worse and worse and was always brown. I did have back pain with my m/c, but it was more between my shoulders. I was also about 10 weeks at the time. Good luck!!! The spotting and back ache are a symptom of pregnancy and of m/c. I hope you get some answers soon...
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June 4th, 2007, 01:48 PM
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Thanks again everyone.

I have a little update. One of the nurses called me back a couple of hours ago and I completely broke down in tears when I was talking to her. I think all the worry and anxiety of the day just caught up with me. Anyway, she was very nice and went to talk to the doctor and came back and said to come in tomorrow morning at 8:15 for b/w and u/s to hopefully put my mind at ease. I actually did start to feel better before she called, so I'm really hoping that everything is fine. It's really good that they're taking me in early - she was completely sympathetic about the worry of the previous m/c's.

Now I have a question... I will be exactly 6 weeks tomorrow, which I know is borderline for timing to see a h/b, do any of you have any stats on how often a h/b can be detected at 6 weeks? Assuming all is well, I want to be armed with that information going in.
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June 4th, 2007, 03:23 PM
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okay i had my first ultrasound at 6w and there was a hb..it was slow though, 106..i went back at 7w and it was 145..it depends..sometimes the heart doesnt start to beat until mid way through the 6 weeks so do not panic if you dont see it tomorrow or if its slow. Look for the fetal pole at this point..thats a big plus!!
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June 4th, 2007, 04:59 PM
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First, hugs. This is a tough time...so much to worry about. As for the heartbeat, I think 6 weeks is right on the borderline. What really might make a difference is if you are further or less far along than you think. I charted with temps and was almost certain as to my ovulation date. Nevertheless, baby is measured 7 days ahead by my 12 week appointment.

Bleeding and cramping are so unpredictable. Try to stay positive...I know it's hard.

Lots of prayers for a good appointment tomorrow. Keep us updated.
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June 4th, 2007, 05:06 PM
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I'm really hoping for a good update in the morning!! I agree with all of the girls...6 weeks is borderline...so don't be totally freaked if you don't see one. I did not see a hb even at 7 wks and am now well on my way!!

I do hope you get to see that little hb just to give yourself some reassurance. You've been through so much and you deserve good news!!!
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June 4th, 2007, 06:32 PM
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Gilian...I'm so sorry you're having to go through this scare. I had AF like cramping until 8wks, and I had backache pain as well. For my 3rd m/c I never had any warning signs since I only knew because my levels were dropping not rising, and with my 2nd m/c I found out at 11wks that there was no heart beat and it was a missed m/c with no symptoms.

Hang in there (I know...easier said than done), and hang onto any ounce of hope you can find. I'm praying for ya hun, and for a good u/s tomorrow. The ladies are right, 6wks is border line for seeing the heartbeat, but it's possible. Keep us posted.

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June 4th, 2007, 09:03 PM
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((hugs)) I totally understand that ANY weird cramping, discharge, pain etc can be really distressing during pregnancy, but try to think positive. I had a lot of cramping in two of my pregnancy's, and my miscarriage I didn't have much! The cramping was worse with my two other pregnancys!!!! It is more common than we think also, to have some brown (or even red) spotting/discharge during pregnancy, especially in the 1st trimester - and even more commonly early on in the 1st trimester...

I am sending lots of sticky vibes your way hun!
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June 5th, 2007, 08:31 AM
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I hope everything is alright. It's really borderline to see the h/b at 6 weeks. Keep us posted Gilian! Good luck.
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