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April 14th, 2012, 06:52 PM
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Do you find yourself thinking "That car seat doesn't look right." when you see photos up? Do you judge other people's parenting decisions?

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April 15th, 2012, 07:47 AM
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I have my opinions for sure. And i'm always thinking to myself. But with my irl friends I make sure to not say anything unless they ask me a question. After working with special needs children I feel like I'm always on the lookout if the child could benefit from early intervention or extra help at school.
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April 15th, 2012, 02:49 PM
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Not so much with the car seat thing, but I definitely constantly analyze parenting styles. If I witness a "situation", I try to think through what I would do similarly/differently. I keep my mouth shut, though. I'm highly non-confrontational, so unless I see something REALLY dangerous, I don't say anything.
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April 15th, 2012, 05:11 PM
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I really dont think anyone is free from NOT judging. Think we all do it even if only briefly.

99.9% of the time I could care less what someone does because its their decision, they know their kid(s), and they have to live with whatever decision they made, etc.

However, there are occasions I get a quick thought passing through my head usually of the "ohhhh pulease" variety on certain issues or certain things people say(especially if they are downing other parents acting like their decisions dont stink and are perfect).

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April 16th, 2012, 02:03 AM
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I agree that we all judge, it is human nature. However, the nature of the judging is different.

I for instance, back when I had one kid, who was only 2 remember thinking "Why would you let your little kid listen to that?" when somebody told a story about their kid singing a song that I found inappropriate for a child (but I liked.)

Now, I don't think like that almost ever. I won't try to say I'm not still judging. There are things other parents do that bother me, however I don't jump on the bandwagons others seem to get on.

For instance, the Duggars are a perfect case. Everybody jumped all over them when those pictures got posted of their last child's feet and hands (after it was born still) and I was just baffled as to why they were being so rude to these people who had just had a loss, it was just bewildering to me.
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April 18th, 2012, 05:04 PM
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I always catch myself thinking "oh if that were my child" or telling Nick my SO " Leo will never act like that" when I see kids running and screaming in stores or restaurants. I guess that's my way of saying the parents need to disepline their children. I never say anything unless I'm in a nice restaurant and trying to enjoy my food and it has happened a few times

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