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August 17th, 2009, 09:20 PM
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Have you caught your kids lying? If so, how have you handled it? If not, how do you plan on handling it in the future?
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August 18th, 2009, 05:48 AM
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My kids are still too young to lie, so we haven't dealt with this yet. I'm not sure how I'll handle it in the future, really... but I am not going to have kids who lie to me.
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August 18th, 2009, 08:19 AM
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AJ has fibbed knowingly cause he knows he will get in trouble for doing XYZ, but we haven't really addressed the lying. We usually address what he did that he wasn't supposed to do.
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August 18th, 2009, 12:14 PM
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My kids are too young for that yet - not sure how I'll handle it. My friends were talking about it the other day though and one of them pointed out that often parents ask their children questions when the parent already knows the answer when it might be better to avoid the opportunity to lie by just saying what you already know. For example: instead of "DS did you write on the wall?" she says "DS, I see that you wrote on the wall."
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August 18th, 2009, 12:24 PM
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With us its why did the younger ones lie?

We punish the deed not the lie (yet). We talk to them about lying and see how they would like to be on the receiving end of a lie.

A good example is the Ally Bank commercial with the kids getting baited and switched on toys; this both Leigh/Brandon understand. Lies from Leigh had happened from day one. Most of it we think is from fear, and the abuse prior to them arriving in our household. It was stupid stuff like hiding food, stashing clothing, and the fear of going away.

The Teen.
She knows right from wrong, shes basically a good kid, but sometimes the mouth is in gear faster than her ability to think it through. Once again its little things, and I won't want this to develop into bigger things.

Typical stuff like "I was at so and so's house", but we found her at someone else's house. She gets one chance to come clean before punishments begin. So far she comes clean during her one chance amnesty discussion.

She had already learned the hard way, if you don't come clean during your last chance session; life can get miserable with no phone, turn in the cell phone, no pool time, no social outlet, extra stuff after school canceled, no tv, no computer, no radio, and your chore list increased with a deadline to do complete everything.
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August 19th, 2009, 07:39 AM
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My kids also are too young to lie. I don't really know how I'll handle it except I know for sure I'll try not to overreact to anything they tell me so that they're not afraid to tell me things in the future. My parents used to overreact and punish me for the stupidest things so I used to lie a lot when I was younger. It took a long time to break the habit, and still to this day I am not completely open with my parents. I'm not dishonest, but I don't open up all the way either.
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