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May 23rd, 2012, 03:31 PM
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This question isn't just for converts, as I've never actually considered myself one...though I suppose I am...but I don't actually remember not being Catholic...anyway, for those with family members who aren't Catholic do you ever experience a moment where you know your faith and their faith clash or maybe you're just aware they don't like your faith?
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May 23rd, 2012, 03:40 PM
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or maybe you're just aware they don't like your faith?
My father and brother only came to the reception part of Sebastian's baptism, ate the food & left. So um, yes. My mom came to the Church at least as well. All she had to do was sit and watch, it wasn't even a Mass since our parish does them Saturday afternoons as its own ceremony type of thing.

My family generally ignores anything to do with the Catholic faith.
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May 23rd, 2012, 06:40 PM
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Most everyone I know is Catholic including all family members, though not all practicing-no issues with clashes at all
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May 24th, 2012, 02:14 PM
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Although both DH and I were raised in the church, hardly any of our extended family could really be called Catholic anymore. There are comments, FB posts, little things that add up to tell us that any religious discussion could get pretty heated. Luckily, these things are easy for us to avoid with more than a thousand miles between here and there. But the subject of being open to life, and how many of our kids make "too many"..... I'm afraid I'm soon going to have to go there again...
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May 24th, 2012, 07:37 PM
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It's really tough for us with family. Our faith is the most important thing to us, so it's hard to keep hush about something we love and are so excited about. We are the only Catholics in our family. My side is at least calm about it. DH's though...not so much. It's hard when we visit either side and they see us leave everyday for daily mass and think we're just trying to check off a list of to-do's in our faith. I know their assumption (as was ours pre-conversion) is that everything we do, as Catholics, is all just religious/works mentality/no heart. So yeah, awkward puts it mildly. Plenty of word knock down drag outs when we first came into the Church. So far though, I think we have felt good about how we've handled our side of things and we understand why they feel heated on their end though.
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May 24th, 2012, 08:19 PM
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When my mother converted it really hurt my father. So there are things that are just kind of awkward. The most awkward moment I've ever had though was at Amber's Baptism. Amber has two godmothers for various reasons, and one of them is a good Christian, but she isn't a Catholic. She is a Lutheran. And normally I would say she could come to Mass and feel 100% welcome any week. This ONE week he took out like something against the Lutherans during the homily. I was so worried she'd be offended...I think she was fine, but it was this awkward moment. She's totally respectful of me being Catholic and would never push anything we disagree on, on Amber of course...but wow...
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I converted and my mother was completely opposed to it. I have a brother that is, at best, agnostic. I asked her why she was so against my being Catholic and had never even batted an eye at my brother's stance. She said she "knew he'd come around." :eyeroll: I was raised Pentecostal and was raised to believe that Catholics were all Mexican, worshiped saints and went to church on Saturdays instead of Sunday, when you were supposed to go. Everyone believes their religion is right, which, I guess is the right thing to believe if you're going to believe but to have this prejudice against Catholics without actually being educated on it is baffleing. Anyway, what's funny about the whole thing is my mom has been married to a Catholic for 20 years! LOL he's just not practicing, what with 4 divorces and all. I guess that's okay for her, too. She comes to the baptisms and says grace with us at dinner. She even attempts to cross herself but doesn't really know how. So, yeah, it's awkward for her and she hates it.
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I was raised Pentecostal and was raised to believe that Catholics were all Mexican, worshiped saints and went to church on Saturdays instead of Sunday, when you were supposed to go.
Well, we do have Mass on Sat. eve instead of Sunday, but wow! LOL!

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May 29th, 2012, 05:02 PM
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I have noticed that prejudice and hatred towards Catholics. It's crazy how "tolerance" is preached but when it comes to tolerating religious practices, then "the unspoken clause" comes out. Which is, everything should be tolerated, all freedoms, except conservative freedoms of Catholics (and other non-liberal faiths). I've had to unfriend a couple of people on FB due to their harassment of what they mis-perceive Catholicism and conservativism to be.

DH parents are no longer in our lives, for MANY different reasons. One of them being their hatred of my faith. DH is a non-practicing protestant but goes to mass with me and we're raising the kids to be Catholic. My FIL even went there and said "The Catholic church is the devil's church". He is about as ignorant as they come. He bases his theories of Catholicism on the mistakes of church leaders hundreds of years ago, who were not following church teachings in their leaderships. He has yet to step into the 21st century. He's also stated that our kids are doomed because they're biracial. Again, more ignorance.
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Yeah, I've always enjoyed how people go on about a religion being intolerant (comes up a lot in the conversation about gay marriage) but within the same comments about how that religion is intolerant it is obvious the person speaking is intolerant of that religion. Pot meet kettle type speech. Makes it hard to even listen to whatever the point they were trying to make was.
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I was "raised" Presbyterian. I say raised loosely because my Gram took me most weeks. Mom had no interest, didn't care and worked/slept weekends. As a teen a friend of my moms took me to a Baptist church for awhile but it was only after moving to Texas for college and Tony and attending church with his family did I really feel at home in a church.

On top of all that, almost all of dh's family is Catholic and all of mine is half a country away.
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