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August 28th, 2011, 10:32 PM
2015 Offshoremama78's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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It never occurred to me how powerful that word was...
I would soon find out though...

On August 16th I went in for my ruitine weekly OB appt.
I figured I would get my NST, my 17p shot and a quick Dr visit.
I thought I would be going home to my computer, my bed, my
comfy clothes and movies... Oh how wrong I was..
After 20 minutes on the NST with out a response, they decided
to send me for a BPP. The tech scanned over lil David, she said
he was ding his breathing, his movements and every thing that
he was supposed to do. She left the room to go "Talk" to the MFS
(Maternal Fetal Specialist) About 15 minutes later another tech came
in saying she just needed to go back over and get a few pictures that
the other tech didnt get.
In all the U/S took about 2 hours. They took me to a room and we sat there
for about 20 minutes.Befor Dr. Dumbrowski came in.This scared me as he
was the head MFS, the top in his field. He wanted to talk to us. He told us
that what he saw in the U/S scans showed strong signs of a brain hemorrhage,
and that the baby had NO amniotic fluid around him. He told us that they were
going to have to do an emergency C-section to save Davids life.
I was numb, all I could do was stare ahead and nod repeatedly.
They were admitting me, they told Jon to drive around to L&D and wait for me there.
It didn't hit me until every one left and I was all alone. The walls seemed to close in on me,
I couldn't breathe, my eyes started to burn. In minutes I was full force crying.
I felt hopeless, how could every thing have gone so wrong? What caused this? Why us?
I had 24 hours to think about all of this. I didn't even know if David would survive.
They told me he may be brain dead or severely retarded. They gave me NO answers..
This was my worse nightmare, and it was happening with my eyes wide open...
I didn't get any sleep that night. Jon and i cried together many times.
I was put on an IV and given some meds that might help David when they took him out.
I watched the time tick slowly away.
An hour befor my surgery, I completely lost it. I had a full on emotional break.
The anxiety took hold of me and I had a panic attack. All I could do was shake severely
and repeat not my David and why.
I was prepped at 10 am, and wheeled to the anesthesiologist. I got my EPI block around
10:20 and it was a blur after that. I was numb, I had no legs or i might have ran.
They started the section and Jon wasn't even there yet. I asked the nurse WHERE was m fiancee?
They "forgot" to call him back.. REALLY??
A minute later he walked in and sat beside me, and held my hand.
At 10:39 am, on August 17, 2011 my whole world changed. I saw the most handsome
lil boy I had ever laid eyes on. I waited and waited for a cry..... NOTHING....
It seemed like forever, but I was told it was just minutes. His lil cries sounded like a small kitten.
I did not get to hold him, I was allowed a quick glimps and a small kiss.. Then he was swept
away to NICU...
I was drifting in and out, floating almost. I felt cold and distant, far away and detached.
I passed out and woke up in recovery cold and in pain. They gave me a shot of stadol
and I passed out again. When I woke I was in my room, three hours had passed.
They took blood and re-did my IV again, the nurse had blew my vein. I didn't even notice
I was so out of it... My eyes were heavy, I passed out yet again.. I woke to needing
a blood transfusion, in all I received 3 of them...
I asked to see my baby. The nurse told me I couldn't go until I could pee with out my cath
and walk.I asked her to remove the cath so I could pee. I got up and walked to that bathroom and then to the nurses station so fast the nurse watching me didn't know what to do with herself...
NEVER tell a new mother she cant see her baby unless she does something first....
If she would have told me to fly, I would have become Peter Fricking Pan...I would have found
a way..
Jon wheeled me down to the NICU, as I saw him, I realized the severity of the situation.
There where alarms going off, crying women, nurses running every where...
I was over whelmed. ALL I wanted to do was hold David....
But I couldn't hold him.
I had nurses and doctors trying to tell me what they thought was going on.
I cried when I looked down at him. No one was giving us a shred of HOPE.
I guess they had been trained not too...
He looked so small, so fragile. All I could do was stick a hand into the Isolet and touch him.
Jon and I cried together again. We held hands over our son in his Isolet and prayed.
The nurses came and took his blood and said the Dr would have some news about it the next day.
We were told that the blood was old and that it had corrected it's self. That his body was
re-absorbing it.
This was the first bit of good news..
Over the next few weeks, we had our ups and downs. He would have a good day
and then hiccup and have a Brady's or something else.
But it seemed like he was getting stronger, better every day...
He shows no signs of brain dysfunction.
All he shows is pre term muscles. He will grow out of that.
He is a miracle..
Going through what we went through, I know to appreciate every day.
I know there are times you feel like you can't handle this and it's ok.
Every time I felt there was absolutely 100% no hope left.... Something gets better,
Something changed.... In the end I know every thing happens for a reason..
He is our reason to strive to be the best parents we can..
He is our reason....

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Alexander conceived with Soy Iso On 07/04/13
Abigail conceived with Soy Iso 12/30/14

Alexander Cameron Murphy
02/27/2014 - 02/27/2014

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August 29th, 2011, 12:12 AM
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So glad that he is doing better. Thank you for sharing your story.

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August 29th, 2011, 05:32 AM
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He is so perfect Coral--thank you for sharing. I know these last few weeks have been difficult, but your family is stronger and you will soon be home with your beautiful baby!!

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August 29th, 2011, 06:33 AM
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Coral, you've got me bawling! Such a beautiful story and such an amazing little man!! I'm so proud of you AND David for being so strong. I'm glad your hubby was there to support you and I know that this has had to have only brought you all closer together. It's a miracle that David is doing so well, and I hope and pray he continues to do so (and have faith that he will!).
It kind of makes you think because when I hear NICU I think "those babies that come early or have problems" and it makes me sad for them and their families of course, but I never think it could be MY baby that is going through that. It's hard to prepare yourself for something like that or know what to do until you're living it. But I think you've done amazingly..and I can't wait to watch this little trooper grow! Congrats, mama! He's precious!
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August 29th, 2011, 07:26 AM
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Thank you for sharing your story, Coral! David IS perfect...he is soo freakin cute!! Congratulations, again!!!

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August 29th, 2011, 09:27 AM
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What a beautiful and amazing story!! Coral - you have a very handsome little man, he's soo cute! Glad he's doing better and hope he continues to get stronger each and every day!
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August 29th, 2011, 12:08 PM
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I'm so glad he's doing so much better. You guys are very lucky after such a scare. Lots of love your way and I'm so happy he's getting to come home with you!

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August 29th, 2011, 12:10 PM
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Nothing is more troubling than when doctor's don't tell you news immediately. As though they think we don't worry!

So glad to have little David in the world and to see him coming home! Short NICU stays are always empowering - and better to know he's doing so well. Congratulations on your little bundle, mama. And I hope to see you cheerful! You've seem so down lately, friend.

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August 29th, 2011, 12:10 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing this. Even though I can't really stop the tears right now, my heart is filled with such hope and love for you guys. I'm so happy that you're little man is a fighter and strong one. I wish you the very best of luck... And Congrats on making it through mommy!!! <3
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August 29th, 2011, 06:55 PM
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Thank you for writing this out Coral. What an emotional birth story. You are a strong women. Forever and always you will be a superb mama.

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September 6th, 2011, 02:25 PM
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Soy Iso Believer
Alexander conceived with Soy Iso On 07/04/13
Abigail conceived with Soy Iso 12/30/14

Alexander Cameron Murphy
02/27/2014 - 02/27/2014
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January 15th, 2012, 04:50 PM
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congratulations on your little boy! i hope he's doing super, now!!
msjaQ- 28, pantheist AP detroit mama to:
timothy michael, august 31, 2003, 12:02pm, 8 lb. 4 oz., 21"- 38 wks.
melissa may, april 7, 2006, 1:31pm, 7 lb. 10.5 oz., 19.5"- 36.5 wks
nicholas michael, january 31, 2010, 5:12pm, 5 lb. 11 oz., 18.25"- 37.1 wks
damon michael, january 21, 2012, 1:31am, 6 lb. 14 oz., 20", 38 wks
rainbow baby left me at 6-1/2 weeks on 09.08.12~ never forgotten, sweet child

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