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June 20th, 2012, 08:36 AM
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Do you or don't you spank? If you do at what age is spanking to old?
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November 27th, 2012, 07:51 PM
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The last time I was spanked I was 10. Prior to that it had been a few years.

I don't think you necessarily need to spank at all.
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November 30th, 2012, 10:08 AM
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I don't spank my children because it does not teach them any positive problem solving skills. In fact, it could teach our children to be physically aggressive towards others. That being said, I wouldn't recommend spanking your child. I suggest removing privileges and using them as an incentive for changing her behavior.
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December 27th, 2012, 07:30 PM
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I believe in spanking. I was whipped as a child and I am NOT physically agressive towards others, nor have I ever been! I think spanking can be taken too far, but that is a problem with the parent, NOT the child. I spank my daughter, and I will spank my new daughter when she is old enough in my eyes. Some kids need it. Some kids don't need it and removing privliges or time outs work.

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April 4th, 2013, 08:08 AM
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I used to spank DD she is 7 now and it just does not work. I would say between 8-10 is too old just depends on the child tho.
I agree with a prev post it works for some and doesnt for others!
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April 7th, 2013, 01:08 PM
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We spank our kids who are 10 and 12, when they cross a line they know not to cross. It works at our house.
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July 11th, 2013, 01:05 PM
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We spank occasionally, usually only if the offense was dangerous, physically harmful to another, or something they've been told repeatedly not to do.

I think that if you spank and it's effective for your family, you should stop when it's not effective anymore.
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July 26th, 2013, 07:51 PM
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I'm for it, provided it's within reason. Some kids do need it because they just don't have a fear of consequences otherwise.
However, my mom was very good with instilling the 'fear of death' in us. If we were acting out in public, she'd turn around and say 'If you don't knock it off, I'm going to backhand you.' I asked her what a backhand was and she said she'd gladly show me. I didn't want to find out so I straightened up.
It just depends on what works for your specific situation. I've seen so many kids thrive off of praise and that was all they needed. I've also seen a few kids that probably would have benefited from a spanking.
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May 15th, 2014, 12:16 AM
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My parents spanked and I was a very violent, angry, unhappy child. I am utterly and completely against spanking 100% of the time. My 14yo was not spanked and is the opposite of what I used to be like. She is kind, empathetic, easy going, and happy.
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July 1st, 2014, 11:05 AM
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I have been spanked as a child, and I will spank. It doesn't mean that spanking is the only form of teaching or discipline. Nor will it be the primary option. It will be just another method/tool/means along with various other techniques and solutions.

In conversations I have had with peers, siblings and younger kids (in my profession), the most well adjusted kids were ones who were spanked (not beaten, but not coddled either).
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July 6th, 2014, 01:30 PM
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I would say up until about age 12
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July 14th, 2014, 11:42 AM
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Spanking is weird.
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August 17th, 2014, 07:40 AM
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I was spanked and I turned out fine. I am all for spanking. Spanking would only happen if my child defied authority after me giving the child three chances. Spankings would not be hard or used with excessive force, and I do not believe in leaving marks on a child that is cruel.
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