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July 5th, 2010, 08:39 PM
*~*SnowHibiscus*~*'s Avatar I ♥ my girls!
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but it annoys me to no end that my MIL has not bought one single thing for Hayden. Nothing. She bought TONS of stuff for Kayla. She said she was waiting until after the shower and she'd probably just give us cash. Which is fine, but where's Hayden's crystal bracelet? Where's her personalized sippy cup and expensive Strasburg dresses and blanket? Kayla got all of that stuff so why doesn't Hayden?

I feel terrible for thinking those things but I can't imagine why one grandchild would be more important and special than another.

I really shouldn't be surprised since she bailed on her second son as soon as she divorced his dad. I should have expected this but I figured as excited as she was about Kayla, she would be a least a little bit excited about Hayden...but no, she could practically care less.

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July 5th, 2010, 08:47 PM
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Was Kayla the first grandchild? That could be why. They are normally all excited for the first grandchild and spoil them and then the second comes and it isn't the same.

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July 5th, 2010, 10:09 PM
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I'm sorry Amanda. I'm sure that hurts your feelings, I know it would mine. It's not about the material things, it's about doing the same for 1 that you do/did for the other. My grandma (dad's mom) treats my brother and I totally different so I can understand where you are coming from. I hope she steps up.
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July 6th, 2010, 06:47 AM
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That sucks and kind of surprising given how generous she was with Kayla. I can kind of relate because my MIL makes no effort to visit us (we usually have to beg her to come) and she's certainly not one for giving Aidan gifts - and I'm with you, it's the the material aspect of it, it's more just all the good stuff that is behind gift giving. But in my case, she's been like this from the get go and Aidan is her only grandchild (even more reason it puzzles me). But anyway, I can certainly relate to the disappointment. The hardest part in your situation will be trying to protect Hayden from what appears to be favouritism towards Kayla because if she continues with it, that could just be really ****** for Hayden. I'm sorry, I hope she smartens up!

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July 6th, 2010, 07:00 AM
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My parents did this too.

With Thomas he got a brand new crib, dresser, everything I mentioned I wanted and my mom liked.

Collin got NOTHING. I thought it was bc he wasn't the 1st grandchild. but then my father went crazy with my sisters son.

They went all out for Bailey as well. ya know 1st grand DAUGHTER

Even now, Collin gets nothing really, only at holidays. But Thomas and Bailey get gifts "just because" from both my ILs and my parents. (not that I want anything from my ILs)

Sry for the minirant, I can TOTALLY relate, though neither Thomas or Bailey got a crystal bracelet or personalized anything

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July 6th, 2010, 07:04 AM
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Did she buy Kayla all of that stuff before she was born?
Maybe she's holding back until Hayden is here to see what things she really needs or perhaps hasn't found the right items yet?
or maybe money's tight right now?
(thinking positively)

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July 6th, 2010, 11:46 AM
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Bah, vent away. Mackenzie is the 5th grandchild on DH's side. I didn't even get a congratulations on the pregnancy I totally understand that it's not about the material stuff.
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July 6th, 2010, 01:04 PM
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I get it and it sucks! She might just figure everything she gave kayla (clothing and toys, not personalized stuff) would get passed down? I'm not defending the lack of gifting and interest, just thinking it could be her rational. Either way it stinks! Sorry babe!
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