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March 24th, 2009, 06:39 PM
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Yeah she sounds a little jealous but hopefully she'll get over it to be there for her daughter.
If she doesn't than its her loss and don't give her the satisfation of putting you down, mother or not!
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March 24th, 2009, 06:45 PM
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I think sometimes no matter how hard we try we just can't please our parents.

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March 24th, 2009, 06:48 PM
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It does sound she is jealous. Hopefully she will change her attitude soon.
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March 24th, 2009, 06:50 PM
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I'm sure she's a bit jealous and still protective. My Mom didn't want me to have anymore, not because she doesn't love them but because she's so worried while I'm pregnant for my health. She had rough pregnancies as well and knows it's scary.
I'm sure she's excited for you and will just continue to be more excited as time goes on. In her eyes, you're still her little girl and she probably doesn't see you as a mom yet.

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March 24th, 2009, 06:55 PM
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I'm sorry I'm kinda in a similar situation. DH and I just got married 02/28 and are just telling everyone we are expecting. My dad felt the need to make a comment about how he thought the excitement with us was going to be over for a while . I don't think they are too thrilled we are having another, but I don't really care. My daughter is 26 months and I feel ready for another! I'm sure your mom (and my parents) will come around soon!
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March 24th, 2009, 08:19 PM
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I'm sorry she's as excited as you would like her to be. She might just be worried about your health and how you and DH will handle the pressure of a newborn along with having a new home. It's her job to worry!

She shouldn't have pressured you to tell anyone but I think it would have been a hard secret to keep until you have the gender U/S. Most likely you'll be obviously showing by then.

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March 24th, 2009, 08:31 PM
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I'm sorry she isn't being supportive of you. I'm sure she'll come around sooner than later.
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March 24th, 2009, 08:52 PM
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I'm sorry. It's difficult when those we love most aren't as happy or as excited for us and our little miracles as they should be.

Her emotions and reaction might even have surprised her and brought up issues she didn't realize she needed to deal with. I'm sure she has mixed feelings about it, so very happy for you, worried for you, and sad for herself. I hope she's able to work through them and enjoy your pregnancy with you.

It sounds like she loves you very, very much and as you get further along hopefully it will bring out her excitement. Once you start to show, she can feel the baby kick, and gets to see the u/s pictures and finds out the gender (if you're finding out) I bet she'll get excited.

My mom wasn't the least bit excited about my first pregnancy. I was devastated by her reaction. It put a damper on my joy for awhile too. But she came around and as my pregnancy progressed she got more and more excited.

Lots of in the meantime.
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March 24th, 2009, 10:10 PM
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Parents can be weird about it, but overall it is your life and they will come around give her time

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March 25th, 2009, 07:17 AM
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It sounds like to me that you are in a very good place so I agree with everyone else. I think she is just dealing with some jealousy. I am sure as soon as you start showing and it becomes more real to her, that she will get excited and that jealousy will go away.
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March 25th, 2009, 08:05 AM
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*hugs* It definitely sounds like jealousy to me, but once she's had some time to absorb the information I'm sure that will fade and she'll start getting excited. A new baby is a blessing, and I know she'll love him or her to pieces. As you progress she'll actually probably want to be involved in the preparation and things. I'd give it some time, its so great that you are in such a good place and I'm sure she does see that. Try not to worry, and don't let her jealousy take away from your enjoyment of being pregnant

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March 25th, 2009, 08:19 AM
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I am sorry she put a damper on things for you. Have you talked to her about it? You're still her baby and you're in unfamiliar waters for her. Like she can't really give you advice or walk you through it so she feels helpless maybe? I am sure she didn't mean to hurt your feelings...

Regardless, she should at least respect that you want to keep the pregnancy quiet a little longer (imo).
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March 25th, 2009, 09:10 AM
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I am glad you talked to her, to me it sounded like she explained. sounds like she is down she can't do what a lot of moms seem to do, share their experiances with their daughters.. does that make sense?

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March 25th, 2009, 09:16 AM
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It sounds like she regrets the way she said things. I think sometimes people just don't know how to react. Maybe you and her could take some prenatal classes together? And if we all waited until we were "ready" NO ONE would have kids

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March 26th, 2009, 08:59 AM
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Oh girl! Im sorry.

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