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July 18th, 2011, 02:33 PM
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I try not to be judgemental on what parents do with their own kids. Whether it is attachment parenting, traditional parenting, or somewhere inbetween, my philosophy is that you do what works for you and your family. However, what I witnessed yesterday is a huge judgemental moment.

I decided to take Billy to the playground at the park. Instead of going to the playground at the private park next to my house, I thought it would be nice to go to the public park not too far from me. It is still walking distance.

So I get there and there are a bazillion birthday parties going on. The playground is full, but Billy has to learn to wait his turn and play alongside other children. We stayed and played on different slides and so forth. Then one of the two baby swings opened up, so we went in it. As I am pushing him, I notice the little girl in the other baby swing is being pushed by what I assume is her brother.

The little girl looked no older than 3 and the boy about 5 or 6! No parent or adult was in sight! Of course the little boy gets tired of pushing her and goes off to play, leaving her alone. She starts crying and I don't know what to do.

So then another little boy comes up and asks her if she wants to be pushed. She nods yes then after a while cries that she wants out. The boy tells me that the girl wants out of the swing. I told him, "Sweetie, she isn't mine." But she is still crying.

The brother comes back and I ask where his mom his and he points to a group of people. I ask to the little girl the same thing and she points to the same group. So I take her out thinking she is going to go there. She just goes and plays in the sand instead. Oh yeah, and she was wet ....thank goodness I had my hand sanitizing wipes.

I cannot believe in a park full of people and I mean packed, a parent went and stuck her child in a swing and left! Obviously the parent wasn't watching what was going on because I am assuming seeing me, a complete stranger, pick her child up would prompt her to come running over. Seriously - she should have just put a big sign over her daughter's that said...KIDNAP ME.

ETA: I am now thinking I should have left her in the swing. At least she couldn't wander off. NowI feel bad

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July 18th, 2011, 10:32 PM
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I have to say that is so normal here, I am not that way and don't care for it but I guess they figure scine it is such a small isolated town nothing can happen but that is just not true, it makes me sad for her but some would say I am too on top of Elise

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July 18th, 2011, 10:38 PM
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They would say the same thing about me. I left my phone in the stroller which was very close by. I would have been able to keep Billy in my sight and get the phone, but I chose to take him with me. It takes just a second for something to happen.

I just felt so bad for this little girl. Someone just stuck her in that swing and left, thinking her little brother was old enough to take care of her, assuming that was her brother. Plus being wet on top of it...so sad
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July 19th, 2011, 06:36 AM
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I see that alot and it makes me mad

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July 19th, 2011, 09:29 AM
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My Dh and I took the kids to a zoo on Saturday and Abe fell asleep in the car on the way there. We got him into the stroller, still sleeping, and went into the park. They have rides at this zoo, so after we went looking at all the animals Cohen wanted to go on a ride. We headed over to this train ride and parked the stroller by the exit of the ride because Abe was still sleeping. DH took Cohen on the ride and I sat on a bench next to Abe passed out in the stroller. The bench was only a foot away, but I was sitting on the farther end of the bench because it was shaded and I was wearing the baby. As people got off the ride they all kind of stopped to look at him and one woman asked if he was mine....she wanted to make sure someone didn't just leave him there and go on the ride. It really surprised me at first, but I'm glad that at least one person had the decency to ask. We went through 3 rides of people before Cohen and DH got on and if someone had really left there kid there anyone could have walked away with him. It made me sad to think that people probably do that sort of thing

My judgmental side came out while at the zoo too. We saw 3 morbidly obese children under the age of 5 there that day. It was the first time in YEARS that I've seen obese children, and they were just toddlers. Part of me wanted to grab the parents and say "You are KILLING YOUR CHILD".

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July 19th, 2011, 11:14 AM
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It's so sad when you see things like that!

I took Echo to the zoo last week, and didn't realize that it was "community day," so admission was only $1. That would have been awesome, but it meant that all of our finest citizens were there as well. I saw so many children being sworn at, dragged by there arms or leashes, hit, and wondering about with no parental supervision at all. I usually let Echo run free at the zoo (while watching her the entire time!!) but with it being so busy, I put her in the stroller. It's too easy for someone to just grab your kid! And with a day like that, I'm sure that pedophiles think about it too.

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July 19th, 2011, 01:07 PM
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I read this post yesterday, but didn't respond. Today I took the girls to the park and automatically thought of this post! While we were there, we saw a little boy who looked to be about Catie's age. At first I thought he was with a gentlemen we had seen. But then I saw this man pushing another little boy (around 2 years) on the swing, so I figured that wasn't his dad. Finally I saw him walk by a woman who was just sitting on a bench. She said Hi, and he seemed to know her (so assuming this was his mom). But she never got up and followed after him. I was following Catie everywhere. This woman was situated in the middle of the park, but i know there were times this little boy was in a place where she could not possibly see him. My mom and I couldn't get over how she'd just let him run around like she was.
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July 19th, 2011, 03:42 PM
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Stuff like this makes me sad. I see it all the time. I follow the girls like crazy. I don't sit on a bench and watch them, I PLAY WITH them, follow them, chase them, etc.. I am ALWAYS beside them.

Just yesterday, Jay and I were eating dinner at a buffet. Across from us, a little girl is STANDING on the bench to a booth, all alone. LITTLE.. Like Abby's age. Jay looks at me, gives me a strange look and we're looking around for the parent. They are BOTH at the buffet, and it wasn't right by it either. I couldn't believe it!! One couldn't stay with her while the other got their food and then switch?

Then later we were in a casino and a little boy, under 2.. was wailing!!! Calling out, Mama, Mama!!! I was sitting at a slot machine, Jay was walking to a different machine and sees this little boy. Wandering, wailing. He stops, says where is your Mommy.. The kid is just wailing!! He takes his hand and walks toward the desk to give him to security and on the OTHER END of the casino and lady was sitting at a slot and says his name, the kid turns, sees her and takes off running. She was playing freaking slots while her kid is running free. I couldn't believe it and Jay was TICKED!!! He told her, WATCH YOUR KID!! And she glared at him! Idiots!!! What if jay had been a kidnapper, a pedophile, etc?? He could have grabbed him and been out a door before anyone saw him.

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July 19th, 2011, 05:32 PM
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Cathy -It makes me mad too that this kind of stuff happens. There are certain things I am lenient on, but when it comes to public safety, I don't take any chances.

Paula - I don't leave my son's side when we are at the playground. Like you said, I don't just watch him, I play with him.

Shawn - I completely get what you mean. If there are not alot of people at the zoo, then it is fine for Echo to be walking around. She won't get lost in the crowd.

Chris - I don't see my time at the park as my time to rest. It is Billy's time to play and for me to play too!

Hayley - It is nice to know that someone took the time to ask if you are his mommy. I remember going to an amusement park and the parents leaving the child in the stroller while they went on a ride.
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July 19th, 2011, 09:25 PM
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That annoys me so much. Normally when we go to the park we go with the neighbours. Jas and their little boy will go off and play but we still keep them in our sight at all times. The younger girls tend just to stay with us.

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July 21st, 2011, 10:59 AM
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Mother describes scene of crash that killed son, 2, allegedly led to driver's stabbing in Grand Rapids | MLive.com Tragic story of a child who wasn't being watched by his parents, and was hit by a car and killed. The thing that really pisses me off, is that the mom, who should have been WATCHING her kids, is taking no responsibility. So many lives have been ruined by this, the child is dead, the driver is wounded physically, and will have to live with the guilt of killing a child for the rest of his life, the stepfather (or boyfriend, whatever) is likely going to serve 15-life for stabbing the driver, and the child's older sister feels as if it's her fault for letting him run in the road. This all could have been prevented if the mom was WATCHING HER F'ING KIDS.

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July 22nd, 2011, 08:16 AM
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These stories make me so mad! It is so easy for a child to be taken! A friend of mine who works in security once showed me how easy it is -even when you do watch your child- for your child to be stolen. I learned that even when my child(ren) is in a stroller, shopping cart, etc...to never turn my back (to look at things, etc) without keeping physical contact with my child.

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July 27th, 2011, 06:02 PM
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these stories all piss me off.

I mean, most of the time I am on the ground walking around the playground equipment with camera in hand and running to the bottom of slides. But always within site of the kids. Hell, JUST THIS SUMMER I began letting Thomas going off on his own at one of the two playground we usually go to, and only because it's fenced in and there are only usually 2-3 other families there, and that's after talking t whatever parents are standing at the gate. Most of the mom's there look out for other kids and always tell the kids who try to get out to go find there mommy first. LOL.

But really??? If your leaving the security of inside your home with your child, at least ACT like a **** parent.

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