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March 31st, 2010, 05:01 PM
Justjessie's Avatar Really Just Angela
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DH hates my OB. This is going to cause HUGE HUGE problems in the delivery room.

My OB is not a people person. He's a big huge *** that should be twisting tops on tubes of toothpaste. BUT HE IS GOOD.

DH is not going to accept this, he is going to call him mom in (she was an OB nurse) and all hell is going to break loose...all while I'm trying to watch my two kids (I think no one will watch them for my delivery) and while I'm having contractions.

I am very interested in pregnancy. I want to learn all that I can. My OB wants me to get knocked up and push a baby out and nothing else.

I want to know my HCG betas every time I go in...today I asked for my Beta Hcg MoM score (just a gender determination thing) and he REFUSED TO LET ME KNOW.

Yet if there were ever a problem...I trust the guy with my life.

DH is a joker...this guy thinks DH is NOT FUNNY. DH doesn't like not being the center of attention and this doc has ONE goal. GET MY BABY OUT. He doesn't want to make friends with DH along the way.

*sigh* It's MY pregnancy. If anyone else wants it, they can do it for me but that's not going to happen =)

And he won't change my EDD even though the baby measured 8 days big at the u/s. So I'm still Sept 25. He said he won't let me go "too far past my due date". I'm telling you right now, I will go a week early.
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March 31st, 2010, 05:43 PM
redbirds's Avatar Blessed Again!
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Not good, Angela! I'm sorry his bedside manner leaves something to be desired. Is your DH pushing you to find a new OB? You can request all your medical records, they can't deny that, so you should be able to get ALL the findings you need along the way...

I am not sure... To me bedside manner is big, and having confidence in your OB is even bigger! You should be able to find an OB who has both but looking for one could be a worst pain.

What are your plans? Just grin and bear it? What a horrible way to have to deal with the pregnancy... like a tug of war between your DH and your doc. Hmmm...
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March 31st, 2010, 06:32 PM
lexicon's Avatar formerly SarahRenee
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Are there other doctors in the practice? You know, there's a good chance that when you end up at the hospital in labor, you might have a different OB. Will your DH be going with you to every appointment? It sucks when your partner doesn't like your dr (my DH had major major issues with one midwife my 1st pregnancy... they BUTTED heads... so we just avoided scheduling appts. with her). This sucks... I'm sorry, Angela. I hope you work something out soon!

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March 31st, 2010, 07:04 PM
JesSsica's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Just popping in here but they are YOUR medical records and your doctor can't refuse you anything in your chart. Just call the office and request a copy of your complete medical records. They have to give them to you. That information should be in there.

I can't imagine telling one of our patients, "NO" when they ask for anything in their chart. Could you change doctors just to assure that your dh has a good experience too? Even though it's your body it's his baby too and it's too bad that this guy is being so jerky to him.

I can't stand doctors with no bed side manner. In pregnancy about 90% of the time you're with the doctor is pre-birth in the office when they should be pleasant at least. When it's crunch time during the birth he then he can go all business on you. That's a shame...
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March 31st, 2010, 07:28 PM
alethia's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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boo! i'm sorry. with ds we switched from our first doc because dh didn't get along with her - and that was a problem.
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March 31st, 2010, 08:08 PM
momof8lopez's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Angela, I have to agree with YOU. Although, your DH is as much a part of this as you, your comfort level with his knowledge is very important (would be to me too). I have experienced MANY horrible bed side dr.'s in my life, and if they are the expert in their field and I feel they are being the best advocate for me, I stick with them. DH is just going to have to suck it up and support what is the most important to you.

I do however agree that anything in your chart should be gone over with you, no matter how insignificant the dr. might feel it is to your pregnancy. Thats the one thing that schocks me with such a high regard for a very knowlegable dr., that he just presumes you should not be privy to this.
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March 31st, 2010, 10:21 PM
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I'm sorry it was a not so great appointment. It sounds like the tension between your DH and your OB is going to be unpleasant for everyone. You say your OB is great and you trust him in an emergency, but if he isn't pleasant and the issues with him and DH are going to make the birth experience more difficult than it needs to be, would you be willing to try and find another, equally qualified doctor? If not, and if you are set and YOU are happy with your doctor, then that's great! Hopefully, your DH will get on board and be supportive of you (as you are the one that has to actually give birth to the baby!).
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April 1st, 2010, 07:21 AM
C&J's Mom's Avatar Stacy
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That sounds like a crummy situation. I very much need a doc with good bedside manner. I need to feel comfortable around them. Although I do understand the importance of wanting a competent doc that you would trust with your life. You should be able to find both though. Good luck!

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