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September 18th, 2011, 09:07 AM
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Just curious about something... i know a lot of the ladies that just had their second babies (or are about too) have mentioned how much harder it is this time then it was the first time. Is this just bec/ you are chasing after a toddler and arent able to rest as much so it causes extra strain on the body? Is it partially because our LO's arent even 2 yet so the pregnancies are pretty close together? Is it any easier physically if there is more of a space between babies? You guys are making me nervous to get pregnant again, haha

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September 18th, 2011, 09:18 AM
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My pregnancy with Kolbie was both easier and harder It was easier because I wasn't working on my feet 8-9 hours a day everyday. Working in retail and in a specialty furniture store meant I was hauling couches at 35 weeks pregnant with Kaija! (Yes really...but that's a whole different issue) But it was harder because I couldn't sleep for 16 hours a day like I did when I was pregnant with Kaija. I couldn't always just sit and do nothing. Kaija wanted to be carried and cuddled when I just didn't want to be touched. But with Kaija by the time I got to 35-36 weeks I wanted to be done, too. I think it doesn't matter if it's your first or 21st pregnancy, by the time you get into the last 5 weeks or so you just want to be done

(Oh, and Kaija and Kolbie are 26 months apart. So more than the difference right now, but Kaija was 18 months when I got pregnant with Kolbie.)
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September 18th, 2011, 09:46 AM
QueenCrafty's Avatar Courtney
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My pregnancy with Abri was just different. I was so nauseated all day, every day for over 4 months. It made it hard to function on the days Lily was at home with me (she was in daycare part time at the time). Towards the end of the pregnancy, I actually felt better than I did the first time. I ate better, I didn't gain as much weight, I didn't have as many aches and pains with Abri as I did wi Lily, no crazy swelling.

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September 18th, 2011, 11:39 AM
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My second pregnancy was easier in a lot of ways. I had morning sickness the second time and none the first, but other than that everything was smoother and more comfortable and being busy with one kid made it go so fast. My boys are 19 months apart. I think there are too many other factors(health, weight, activity level, time of year, etc...) that can effect a pregnancy to say it's easier/harder the second time.

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September 18th, 2011, 11:40 AM
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This pregnancy was definitely harder than rachels in the last few months, but mainly because I couldn't just sleep whenever I wanted and I seem to get bad insomnia the last few months of pregnancy. I also was way more uncomfortable the last few weeks...and still have hip joint pain so I dont know whats up with that. And taking care of a toddler and newborn on zero sleep....dont get me started! Haha! Basically I'm happy with our decision that two is it.
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September 18th, 2011, 12:17 PM
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Lily and Violet are 19.5 months apart and it's been way easier than I expected. The pregnancy with Vi flew by, mainly because I was chasing after Lily and wasn't focusing on every little twinge The birth was harder, but that was because she got stuck on my pelvic bone. Lily was pretty little when Vi was born, but she was a big girl in the sense that she was potty trained and stuff like that. She was actually really helpful running to get me stuff when I was nursing, etc. I got sleep because we co-sleep with Vi, so I wasn't that tired. And for the first few months Lily was still napping 1x a day, so I'd put the girls down with me and we'd all nap for a few hours anyway.

I think it just depends on the person though.

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September 18th, 2011, 12:39 PM
CanadianLou's Avatar Laura - mom of 3
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This is my third. The whole beginning of the pregnancy was wayyyyy easier than my first and second. I forgot I was pregnant most of the time. But from 28ish weeks on, I started getting really sore in my pelivs/hip area, and like Lea, I still feel achy and pains here and there. But I do really think it will be different for everyone.

For me I do feel like it's harder this time, but like everyone else is saying I think it is just because you have another child to look after. So you can't sleep when you want, relax when you want...or be there exactly when they want you to. To be honest, Alivia is harder to look after than my newborn. lol Liam is only 4 weeks old, but I can't seem to get them both to nap at the same time. So I never get a nap. But I am hoping like Shelley, I can get them to nap at the same time and have a nap myself!
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September 18th, 2011, 01:29 PM
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Well, I am in the thick of it so I am going to say this second pregnancy is harder! But I don't think it is because it is my second pregnancy - I think it is just the uncomfortable position the baby is in right now.

The first part went much, much faster than my pregnancy with Jed because you have another kiddo to focus on and really don't even remember you are pregnant. I think it is hard now because I am so uncomfortable but still need to lift, change, dress and feed Jed. Plus I am still working full time and climb flights of stairs several times a day.

I think every pregnancy is different and there isn't really a way to predict if it is going to be worse or better.

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September 19th, 2011, 07:30 AM
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My first two are teenagers now but I vividly remember feeling that my second pregnancy was more difficult. Not because it was any tougher physically but because as tara mentioned, because I couldn't rest when I needed to as I had a baby who needed cared for.
During my first pregnancy, I slept when i wanted, ate when i wanted or just rested if I needed to. I lived with my parents. I did work but other than my work hours, my time was mine. I had unlimited time to read books, magazines and get ready for baby. Then when Drew was 8 months old I got pregnant with Emanuel and it was so different. Albert and I had gotten married and moved to California so we were by ourselves. Albert was in the Marine Corps so he went to work each day and it was just me and Drew. So I could only nap or rest when the baby did. That's why the pregnancy felt harder. It was the first time I'd been responsible for Drew by myself (without my mom and sisters constantly helping). When Albert came home in the evenings he helped out but Drew was a pretty needy baby.
It's so cool having them 17 months apart now though!

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September 19th, 2011, 08:31 AM
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My second pregnancy was the BEST one out of all of them. No morning sickness, no bed rest, no heartburn. I never felt pregnant until I started feeling movement. And I was chasing a baby around too. My older two kids are 17 months apart. Even recovery was better. I think for me I was so busy chasing after my oldest I just didn't have time to focus on it.

Now my third one was indeed harder. I was sick more (the only one I actually threw up with). My back hurt constantly, my legs ached and the heartburn was worse. He and my seond kid are three years apart.

Now with Jaxon - WORST pregnancy ever!!! Morning sickness, BAD heartburn all through out, leg cramps, back pain, tailbone pain - all throughout it. I think my age played a factor and the also since it was my sixth pregnancy.
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September 19th, 2011, 08:44 AM
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I think that the reason why the second pregnancies are harder is because you don't have as much time to enjoy the good things about being pregnant. Being busy with one child already makes the time go by faster. Also you don't get the thrill of buying a ton of new stuff like with the first one (at least in my experience). I always got my kids new things, but with Alex it was kinda boring because I didn't need anything. I ended up buying cloth diapers, and the hypnobabies course since I didn't need to get anything else. Most people also don't throw baby showers for second time moms. It seems like the second time around you don't get to do as much fun stuff.

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September 19th, 2011, 09:01 AM
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Mine wasn't worse physically. I got awful morning sickness with both, but it let up around the same number of weeks with both. I think the leg cramps and heartburn were slightly worse the second time around, but not a huge difference. I was able to work on my feet until delivery with both kids, and was able to enjoy the better parts of both pregnancies. DD was also 37 months when we conceived Grey, so she was very independent throughout the entire pregnancy and I didn't have to carry her around at all.
Kate, mom to Liliana (7) Greyson (4) and Ainsley 17 months
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September 19th, 2011, 09:05 AM
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My pregnancy with Kinley was SUPER easy, I think I puked twice! I was never nautious, just tired a lot. With Karsyn, I was always nautious, and for some reason if I wasn't in bed by 11, I was puking! (weird I know!) Both of my pregnacies were easy, just more puking with Karsyn. Kinley was 2 when we got pregnant with Karsyn, which is how we planned it so she was old enough to understand what was happening. Everytime I got sick and threw up, Kinley was right by my side making sure I was okay. There were a few times I had to send her to my mom's for a few hours while I rested. For the most part, Kinley played very well by herself while I layed down to watch tv and rest. Kinley was 3 months shy of turning 3 when Karsyn was born, and we wouldn't have had them any closer together. That age gap works perfectly for us, and I don't think I could handle them any closer--that's just me though! I want another baby when Karsyn is about 4/5, but not any sooner!

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September 19th, 2011, 09:24 AM
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So wild how everyone's experiences are so different!!!

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September 19th, 2011, 09:57 AM
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My toughest pregnancy was my first. The others one I'm so busy I forget I'm pregnant!

adjusting kid wise - going from 1 to 2 was the hardest adjustment for me. Now I hardly notice a change when a baby is born!
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