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March 23rd, 2012, 09:15 AM
ashj_1218's Avatar Hiya!
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Like I said, this has nothing to do with anything involving our babies. But I was at a birthday party for one of Liam's little friends last night. Me and some moms were chatting and suddenly one of them asks "has Tiffany had her baby yet?" Another one says "not as of two days ago, I saw her in Marshall's and she said she was shopping her brains out trying to start labor." (we all know what that feels like!).

So I said "oh, is she past her due date?" and the same one who saw her in the store was like "no, she is four weeks out. Her other two babies came six weeks early, so she figures this one is ready too."

But it gets better! So the one who originally asked says "she has placenta previa, right? I wonder if that's what is making this one stay in longer."

So I say (slightly up on my high horse about knowing a lot about childbirth)..."she can't have placenta previa and be trying to start labor. The doctor would not want her to go into natural labor, at least not intentionally, because if her water breaks and the cervix starts dilating, it can cause the placenta to separate from the wall or cause her to bleed excessively even if the placenta does not detach."

And both of the ladies (who are quite close to this person, I only know OF her) assure me that she DOES have placenta previa and is mad that the doctor will not schedule a section until she hits 37 weeks. Apparently the doctor told her to be on modified nearest (basically household stuff and kid care only) and she doesn't care to listen. Instead she would rather risk her baby's life!!!

Now I am not one to say to take doctors word as god. I question mine and read a lot myself. But In reading she would find it IS dangerous for her to go into labor. What happens if she starts bleeding too much and passes out? What happens if the placenta detaches and she is not at the hospital??

Anyway, I was just horrified that someone would take something like that so lightly. Thanks for letting me rant. I just can't imagine being so cavalier about my child's health and well being. Or mine when I have two other children at home!
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March 23rd, 2012, 09:53 AM
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yikes! I dont know what else to say! I hope that baby stays put until her scheduled c section and nothing bad happens because of her foolish behavior

I do understand why she would feel done with so much time left because she went so early with her first 2, I had Ross at 38 weeks so once i hit about 38 weeks with Will i was done, i felt like he should be here already since last time my baby was, of course Will stayed put until his due date but those last 2 weeks were H E double hockey sticks

however i would never risk my childs life or my life over that DONE feeling
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March 23rd, 2012, 10:22 AM
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I still sincerely hope that someone was misinformed and the situation is not as it seems. I can't wrap my head around it otherwise.

I do get why she would feel done. That part makes sense to me. I remember sorta being sad on the day I had Liam in kierans pregnancy because by that point, he was here and I was still waiting for kieran. Now, I don't have much experience because he came not two days later. I can't imagine you waiting three weeks or her being two weeks past that point. But she only has a little over a week left til her baby can be delivered safely!
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March 23rd, 2012, 12:09 PM
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WOW! It amazes me that some women want to be preggo so bad and the second they are they complain and want the baby out early...Its all part of being pregnant. I just hope her baby stays put for a while longer. I dont understand why she is going against doctors orders with her condition. I just pray that little baby keeps growing and doesnt come too soon!!
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March 23rd, 2012, 07:20 PM
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Even if SHE is feeling done with the pregnancy, her baby is still baking. I would be as troubled and puzzled as you are. I personally would not have such a passive attitude towards my baby's health and delivery...
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March 23rd, 2012, 07:59 PM
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I too really, really hope that she is horribly misinformed. I can't even imagine that someone would put their own life and the life of their unborn child at risk because she is "done" before she is even considered full term. I know that at 36 weeks I was d-o-n-e. But, Marsi decided to be born at 40+1. I really hope it is lack of good knowledge.

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March 24th, 2012, 03:10 PM
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I had Jim 13 weeks early and I didn't get antsy until I started having for real contractions at 37 weeks. I'm just saying, it isn't good having a preemie and most people who have had one (even "only" at 34 weeks) don't want another. The NICU sucks even if your kid is only there a few hours.

I hope someone is misinformed, because otherwise I would say she sounds like a moron!
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March 25th, 2012, 09:36 AM
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oh my....i cant believe someone would take risks like that. i just hope everything turns out fine.
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