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February 8th, 2012, 10:06 PM
bettyearl's Avatar Beth, mom to 4 boys
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I'm not sure this time who I want with me. Last time (when I was separated from DH) I had a real old-fashioned set up with my mom, my 2 sisters, 2 best friends and doula. Also my then 5yr old son. It was kind of a party. I loved it, though this time I think will be pretty different. We don't live near anybody anymore and with my quick labors I think we'll be lucky to have the doctor witness the birth.
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February 9th, 2012, 05:28 AM
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I'll definitely have my DH and maybe my sister. My mom will fly down as soon as she finds out that I'm in labor. Not sure if she will make it.
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February 9th, 2012, 05:38 AM
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just DH. I loved that last time it was just, me, dh, my midwife and a nurse. I hope the same this time.

with my first I was knocked out, so dh wasn't allowed in the O.R. and I have no idea who was in the room...

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February 9th, 2012, 07:32 AM
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If I was able to have a natural birth, I'd have the party aspect, too....pretty much any of my family that wants in could be there. But, since I have to have a repeat section, it'll just be DH and I with my MW, Dr, and nurses. It's kinda cool, though, being just DH and I getting to share the first moments after with our baby. I do wish sometimes my mom and dad could be in there, too, but I can't dwell over that since it's not possible.
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February 9th, 2012, 07:43 AM
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Just my husband. My mom doesn't travel and my sister works, and we're on the Outs with most of DH's family. *shrug* I prefer it to be small, since the nurses never seem to realize that just because people are in the room watching TV with me doesn't mean they want to see my hoo-ha. With my first it was my husband, my sister, my mom, and his mom. Nurse walked in and was like "time to check your cervix!" and ripped the blanket off. I was like "HELLO!"
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February 9th, 2012, 07:44 AM
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Dh for sure and I'm not sure if I want to just keep it us or invite my mom or even my mom and best friend. I have done it both and I kinda think the most special was with just me and the dh. I guess I need to make up my mind.
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February 9th, 2012, 08:08 AM
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My husband will be there, my midwife, and whatever nurses are there. Labor isn't social hour for me. It's all about business. So if you're in the room with me you're going to be bored off your *** cuz I won't be talking to you. Plus, no one needs to see me like that...so there are no invitations extended to the big event.

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February 9th, 2012, 08:17 AM
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My uncle has a rule: If you weren't there to make the baby, unless you have a medical degree, you can't be there to catch the baby. It makes me laugh whenever he says it.

I didn't realize how many people invite other family members and friends in! I've heard about that at home births, but I didn't realize it was so common in a medical setting.

For me: my husband, midwife, then nurses, etc. It's our first, so I don't know what I'll be like during delivery, but I don't want friends and family in there to find out.
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February 9th, 2012, 08:24 AM
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I was going to just have my DH, but I'm getting the feeling that he might bail out of the delivery room if it gets to be too much. He's tough as nails, but he gets freaked out by blood- specifically mine! So, my sister will most likely be there too!

No one else though.
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February 9th, 2012, 08:41 AM
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I believe I am going to have DH and my sister.. She is a nurse, so it will be nice to have her with me

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February 9th, 2012, 09:10 AM
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I'm one of those types who does not want to have to entertain the peanut gallery while I'm trying to have a baby. Especially since I wasn't able to get my natural birth last time and I know of a few factors that were missing. I want that natural birth even more this time around. SO is the only one I want in there. After baby is born and SO and I get at least an hour of privacy for our own photos and bonding, then I will entertain the idea of guests. With DS, SO and I had our privacy and I liked it like that. My mum and brother were the only ones to come see me about 2 hours after I had DS and they stayed for a bit and then went home. It does help deter the peanut gallery that I'm delivering almost an hour away. That hospital is worth the drive!

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February 9th, 2012, 09:19 AM
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With DD, I only wanted DH with me (plus Dr & nurses of course). This time will be the same thing, but if DH's family is here for the delivery I probably wouldn't care if his mom and sisters were in the room. My mom would be welcome too, but she has already decided she's coming after the baby is born and things have settled down. We live very far away from everyone so chances are everyone will be here AFTER the baby is born.
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February 9th, 2012, 09:35 AM
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Does anyone have experience with inviting their mom in and not MIL? I would really like my mom and DH in there with me but I feel like my MIL will be insulted. I guess I won't worry about it, it's my body and my delivery!

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February 9th, 2012, 09:44 AM
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Does anyone have experience with inviting their mom in and not MIL? I would really like my mom and DH in there with me but I feel like my MIL will be insulted. I guess I won't worry about it, it's my body and my delivery!
my MIL wasn't invited and she seemed ok with that. I had DH, my mom and sister there. With Bella, I could only have 3 people in there but they changed the policy to allow 4...I still think I'm sticking with my 3

my MIL has two daughters so she is able to experience those births. I'm not a fan of everyone all up in my personal business if you know what I mean

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February 9th, 2012, 10:25 AM
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I've only ever had DH in the room. It's important to me that it's just us. We'll never get those first moments back, and we'll have to share our kids with the world for the rest of our lives. ;-)
If you had other family in the room, was it a 100% joint decision or did dad agree because it's what you wanted?
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February 9th, 2012, 10:30 AM
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It will be DH, my mom, and my BFF.

My DH can't stand the sight of blood, fluids, etc. so he'll just be up by my head not looking "down there." I'm still trying to convince him to cut the umbilical cord, his comment is "that's what we pay the doctor for." He gets queasy even talking about it.

My mom will be a great support. And my BFF will keep things light-hearted, and I was there when her daughter was born too.
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February 9th, 2012, 10:50 AM
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On my first delivery, I had my mom and DH with me the whole day, but when I had to go in the actual delivery room, I left them outside. I don't think I want DH besides me right then, but maybe the idea will grow on me. I'm scared to have my mom with me, she can get really emotional and I don't want her to faint. My whole family will be right outside the door, ready to intercept the baby

My MIL?? NEVER!!! I hate her, I don't want to see her ^%^*&# face that day (or any day ).
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February 9th, 2012, 11:09 AM
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Just my husband.

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February 9th, 2012, 11:21 AM
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I will have my best friend and acting doula, possibly my other best friend who served as doula last time. My husband, of course.

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February 9th, 2012, 02:00 PM
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Just DH...my mom tried to walk in while I was pushing with my 1st and I screamed at the nurses to get her out of there! LOL

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