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May 14th, 2009, 11:32 PM
NutMeg76's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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We are making Colm's burial box. We saw the coffin today at the funeral home, and it wasn't right to me. He was so small and the coffin is 20 inches, double his size and it wasn't what I wanted for him.

My husband had jokingly asked if we could make our own, and the director said yes. I asked if there was anything specific that it needed to be and he said no. So I went to the store, first to A.C. Moore and then to Michael's. I found the perfect box. It is pine and looks like a baby building block with A-B-C on the sides. I made a pillow to put in it. We will put his memories on the bottom and then his pillow and then he will be placed in too.

We bought two. One they will cremate him in and the other I am going to do for my memory box.

I don't know if anyone has ever done that, but it has been so helpful for me. I will know that he was in something I did special just for him. I made him something with my hands that he got to use. I thought when i found that he was dead that I would never get that chance, and now I have and it is a very peaceful feeling for me.

My husband will take pictures tomorrow before we bring it to the funeral home. I will post them when he does.

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May 15th, 2009, 12:34 AM
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oh wow that is a wondeful idea/thing to do i would have loved creating jessica's box

im so glad u found some peace in doing it hun

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May 15th, 2009, 12:58 AM
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That is such an absolutely beautiful thing to do for your baby.
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May 15th, 2009, 05:06 AM
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That's a really nice way to personalize... just for him. How perfect.

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May 15th, 2009, 05:21 AM
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That sounds like a great way to do it! I can't wait to see pictures!
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May 15th, 2009, 05:30 AM
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That's wonderful that you got to do something for Colm.

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May 15th, 2009, 08:34 AM
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That's going to turn out so beautifully!!!

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May 15th, 2009, 08:42 AM
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I know that Jenny, I think (Delekatala) is making her daughter's headstone, so you're not alone in that. I think it's a wonderful idea. I'm starting to thing I might want to have a nicer/more personal box for Cora than the one that my hospital gave me. I might have to go take a look!
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May 15th, 2009, 08:45 AM
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That is wonderful and i am glad it brought you some peace.

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May 15th, 2009, 09:07 AM
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wow how wonderful. what a beautiful gift to your son.
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May 15th, 2009, 12:07 PM
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That sounds really nice

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May 15th, 2009, 02:32 PM
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That is really nice. It's a wonderful idea and it sounds adorable, I can't wait until you post pics.

I didn't much care for the white coffin, but it didn't really cross my mind to make our own. I think that's a wonderful idea that should be mentioned to parents.

Brittanie-I hated the box the hospital gave me. While I did not make his new memory box, it was a green and yellow wooden tray (with handle spaces on the side, the kind you place on a changing table or dresser) that has a mommy duck and baby duck on it. It had come with clothing inside of it. I saw it one day back in October and I had to have it. I haven't seen naother one since so I'm so glad I did buy it. It was something personal that I had bought for him when he was alive and I am so glad that I can still use it for him.
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