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August 10th, 2009, 07:17 PM
rebeccabaltimore and more's Avatar (rebeccabaltimore)
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Six months ago today. I gave birth to my son. I thought I'd be upset today, but I'm not. I'm feeling quite numb actually. I'm glad not to be all broken up and nonfunctional, but I feel like I've somehow betrayed Ethan by feeling normal. Poor little guy

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August 10th, 2009, 07:36 PM
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Ditto. I felt the same way on my 6-month mark. And ditto on the guilt, too. I think there are other days that have been so much harder. But it was still hard.
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August 10th, 2009, 07:51 PM
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I didn't feel too emotional on Katrina's 6 month mark either. It was more just unbelievable that we had gone 6 months without her either in my stomach or in our arms.

And you're not betraying Ethan by not feeling down. He knows how much you love and miss him.
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August 11th, 2009, 12:39 PM
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I think he would be proud of you for being "okay" on his angelversary. He is your son, he felt through your womb how much you love him. I have a poem called "The Tinest Angel" and it talks from the child's perspective of not wanting Mommy and Daddy to be sad. I also have the book "Born To Fly...An Infants Journey To Heaven" (or something) and it talks about the child not wanting his parents to cry, but wanting them to rejoice because he was with God and in a beautiful place.

There is no right way to feel...every. Just let yourself feel whatever and be gentle on yourself
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August 11th, 2009, 01:45 PM
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Thanks ladies. You guys always know what to say to comfort me

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August 11th, 2009, 02:49 PM
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I agree with all the other ladies. I think we constantly have to remind ourselves that we CAN love and miss our angels without being completely broken up and not functional. We have to remind ourselves that being "okay" doesn't mean we love them less.

I don't actually know whether it "hurts less" or if I've just gotten used to the pain.

It's like they say when a person goes blind the other senses compensate by becoming more acute. That doesn't make the person any less blind.

We're just compensating.
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August 12th, 2009, 07:40 AM
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I'm sorry I didn't respond on the 10th.

thinking of you.

and he KNOWS how much his mommy loves him. He doesn't need you to be broken up to know that. Your love lives inside you every day, all day.

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