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August 12th, 2009, 10:09 AM
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I cannot beleive it's one month today since I gave birth to an angel. As each day goes by it doesn't get any easier. I don't think it ever will. Every day I keep asking why, why did it happen to us. I just don't understand life. I try not to think about it when I am with my daughter but I'm still not able to fully enjoy things with her. Something deep down my soul does not let me. It's just not fair to her. I wish I can fast forward the time right now..

Sorry for rambling... I'm just at a loss for words these days...

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August 13th, 2009, 05:43 AM
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its still so raw hun, dont rush yourself as time goes by it will become easier to smile ur angel will never leave your heart thou hun jessica has never left mine 4 years later

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August 13th, 2009, 08:18 AM
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be gentle with yourself.


I will be thinking of you.
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Logan stillborn, loved beyond measure

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August 13th, 2009, 03:00 PM
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I felt the exact same way for the first months. Then when his due date came around (I was 25 weeks when I had him) it got really bad again. Then in June/July I had a relapse and I swear for 2 weeks it felt like it was the first month. I don't think that as time goes on we miss them less we just grow more accustomed to living with the grief, the missing them, their absence. But it is defnitely still going to be very fresh for you for awhile more. I didn't have any other children so I was able to fully grieve and take all the time I wanted. It might take longer if you have a child you still have to care for, but I don't know. Some of the ladies here were in a situation like that and maybe they can help you more than I could.
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August 13th, 2009, 04:05 PM
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I am so sorry for the loss of your son. Hang in there.......this hurt is still so fresh and raw for you, it does slowly get better in time. I found spending time with my other childeren helped me in so many ways, they forced me to function. Without them I think I could have sunk in a deep depression, I wouldn't have anything to keep me going. I think in time you will find joy in things again.
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August 13th, 2009, 07:04 PM
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It doesn't ever go away, but one day, you wake up, and you find that you don't mind carrying it around with you anymore.

I got that line from a TV show, and it really is true, at least for me.


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August 13th, 2009, 11:04 PM
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I'm so sorry

It is still very fresh to you and it will hurt and that's normal. Everyone's different, so please don't feel you need to rush yourself to feel better. It will get easier to cope with soon enough. It will always hurt and you will always miss your sweet angel, but you will be able to smile again, as much as that may seem impossible at the moment.

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August 14th, 2009, 03:35 AM
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I promise is does get easier, but you will never ever forget and sometime things will just hit you like a bolt out of the blue. 15 years on I still have bad days xxxx
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August 15th, 2009, 11:52 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
I felt the same way you do.
I still struggle with those feelings sometime.

Thank you so much for the awesome siggie Claire
Our joys will be greater
Our love will be deeper
Our lives will be fuller
Because we shared your moment
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August 16th, 2009, 04:16 PM
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