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August 18th, 2009, 10:01 PM
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So we got the placenta analysis report and autopsy report. As we expected, there is no clear reason as to what happened. He was a healthy baby, there was nothing wrong with him. Even though, we were prepared for this after "googling" the stilbirth every day for the past month, I was still hoping that we would be the exception and they give us the reason. The doctor just said that the baby just wasn't meant to be. It's just hard to beleive that at this age and state of medicine they can't figure it out. Just makes me so mad.

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August 18th, 2009, 10:29 PM
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I'm sorry you didn't get an answer. It does seem a bit weird that in this day and age they aren't able to figure it out, but I guess even Dr's don't know everything.

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August 18th, 2009, 11:20 PM
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Oh Helen, I'm sorry. It is certainly one of the most frustrating things... not knowing why. Research needs to be done! This is just not right.

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August 19th, 2009, 12:14 AM
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I am so sorry......I think it's so hard not having an answer. I wish more can be done......we are left with so many questions. Hang in there!
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August 19th, 2009, 04:32 AM
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oh hun im so sorry, must be so hard we are here for you

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August 19th, 2009, 03:38 PM
BakingMommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Maybe this doesn't statiscally prove to be true, but just from what I read nad hear, it seems like full-term stillbirths are more often left with no answers than premature stillbirths. Does anyone else notice that and find that so odd and sad???

We knew what is most likely the cause of Roald's death. It was obvious...research supports it...but they can't say for 100% sure and nothing else was abnormal. So we accept it. But I would have been so hurt and confused, scared and lost if they had no idea. I'm so sorry. I know someone IRL who lost her baby 5 days after her due date and was never given a cause of death. I feel so terrible for those of you left in the dark when it comes to this important aspect.
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August 19th, 2009, 03:59 PM
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Bonnie, I've sort of noticed that too. I was doing some reading on that Dr. who specializes in umbilical cord accidents, and he was saying that he thinks that many of the "no discernible cause" deaths are in fact uca's too, but since the cord isn't actually wrapped around anything, it's just being squished, you wouldn't be able to tell after the baby is born.

I'm so sorry you didn't get definite answers, Helen. I wish I could give them to you.
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August 19th, 2009, 08:52 PM
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I understand how you feel.
Our son died at 41 weeks. He was very healthy.
He died during delivery.

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