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August 28th, 2009, 05:24 AM
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Hi ladies, I'm Carrie and I'm the momma from the Dec. DDC that just lost her baby boy. I am going in at 8am to start an induction so Eli's birthday should be today. I have no doubt that today is going to be the most difficult day of my life and as much as I wish I could put it off, I know it has to happen. I am just not ready to say goodbye to him yet. Luckily, we have an amazing support system of friends and family to surround us during the awful time.
When we went to ER yesterday, the on call doctor that we got was amazing and he is on call again today so we know we are in good hands. They will start the induction with cervadil and I'm hoping that will work as I would like to avoid Pitocin if possible.
Anyway, it's 5:30am here and I can't sleep so here I am to try to keep myself preoccupied for the next few hours.
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August 28th, 2009, 05:59 AM
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Hi Carrie. I saw Brittanie post the link to youe saying you lost your little baby boy yesterday. It made me so sad. I was 25 weeks when I had our son in November.

I know for alot of people the cervadil works (at least from the stillbirth stories I've read). Sometimes the contractions are long with short breaks during stillbirths too but sometimes it is more along the lines of a normal labor. Labor is always unpredictable. I'm just trying to give you hope for a smooth labor and no pitcin I guess.

I know exactly that feeling you are talking about...and I'm sure all the other ladies here do too. When we found out I was admitted to the hospital that evening and they wanted to start the induction at midnight. I just couldn't bearthe thought of not having him anymore...I made them wait until the next morning. I just didn't want to lose him yet. I hope everything goes as best as it can under these circumstances for you, your husband and daughter. It will be the hardest thing you ever go through. I'm just glad it sounds like you will have support around you, because that is so important at a time like this and both of you will need it.
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August 28th, 2009, 06:27 AM
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I'm so sorry you're here, mama. I was really shocked to see another mama report with devastating news.

I hope your induction goes well. I was induced with pitocin since I was already 4 cm when I was admitted. I didn't particularly care for the experience, though. I wish I stayed home, but I'm not sure I'd make the same choice if it occurred earlier.

You should be at the hospital by now. My thoughts are with you all. (((hugs)))
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August 28th, 2009, 07:06 AM
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I am so sorry you are going through this, Carrie. I hate the fact that it happens at all.
I was induced using cytotec. They never used pitocin on me, largely because I have had a previous c-section. I would ask to not have them use the pitocin. I had pretty long labours with both Eva and Declan, but I wouldn't trade that for a fast, more painful labour. With Eva, I didn't find I needed pain medication until the last two hours of labour. With Declan, it was more painful and longer, but I ended up breaking down and asking for the epidural only an hour and a half before he was born.
I will be thinking of you today.

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August 28th, 2009, 08:00 AM
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I'm so very sorry. I hate that we have to welcome new mommies here, but you are welcome.

I'll be praying for you today, that your labor goes smoothly, and that you can find peace in it like I did with my Cora. Yes, it was so very hard, but very peaceful too.

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August 28th, 2009, 08:33 AM
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I'm really sorry for your loss. I don't think they'll actually give you pitocin, apparnetly it only works late in pregnancy. I'm sorry you have to be thinking about induction methods instead of nursery planning. It will get easier over time. The pain never goes away, but one day you'll wake up to find that you don't mind carrying it with you anymore.


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August 28th, 2009, 10:25 AM
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I'm so sorry that your going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I dont even remember what they gave me with Makayla. I pretty much zoned out and was numb and didn't pay attention to anyone or anything.

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August 28th, 2009, 01:35 PM
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again I am so sorry for your loss.
we lost our son at 41 weeks

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August 28th, 2009, 03:30 PM
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im so very sorry you have to join ''our'' board but its with a very warm welcome carrie it is a fantastic board full of the most brilliant ladies anyone could wish for when needing support (i love you all) ( feeling emotional tonight ladies)

i wish you peace as you give birth to your precious angel hun, you will be in my thoughts as you go through this diffivult time

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August 28th, 2009, 04:54 PM
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I am SO sorry you have to join us here. The ladies here are amazing and have been a great support system for me. I will continue to keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

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August 28th, 2009, 05:31 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my son about 2 months ago at 20 weeks. I was also incuded with cervadil. It took two doses every 4 hours and I had two doses then had him. Things went fairly smooth. The nurse warned me with the cervadil sometimes the contracts come on top of one another with out a break. Which happened in my case. I had a dose of pain meds and managed to get some sleep. Then I had more pain the nurse recomended an epidural and my son was born as the anesthesiologist was leaving the room. So you can have some idea of what to expect. I also wish I would have brought my own camera with me. The hospital staff was amazing and took a lot of pictures but most of them are blurry. I wish you a peaceful delievery and I am so very sorry for your loss.
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August 29th, 2009, 10:52 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you labour was as easy as possible. It's wonderful that you have a lot of support.

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